She still cares about me. What next? [update-Should I keep trying?]

[pbgunz35]

So long story short. Me and my ex were dating for 3 months after 3 months I told her I loved her well after all I lied acouple times to her and I guess I didnt trust her. She said we needed a brake so I took the brake a week went by and she assumed I cheated on her which I did not. We did not talk for another week and then she told me she wants all her belongs back we got a big argument which is was really bad and hurt me alot and I know it hurt her.

 

After that happen we did not talk for 2-3 weeks. I see her out at the bar one night and she started texting me after so I just asked her how she has been and it went from there after awhile I asked her if we could meet up for a drink she said you know its not the best idea. Which eventually we ended meeting up for a drink with her and her friends & then her friends left and we ended up going to another bar. We stayed there till it closed and ended up hooking up afterwards but after we did that she was very sad that we hooked up and she told me she still loved me and cared about me as I told her the same as we know drunk words are sober thoughts. She was getting emotional and told me she's very stressed lately with her job and everything else. I said I understand.

 

She told me she could never trust me anymore if we got back together I told her I understand that fact. The next morning I woke up I just texted her to see how she was feeling since we both worked early. I then asked her if we could go see a movie sometime together ofcourse she asked me why and I told her because I still care for her and still wanna see her. She said thats fine and I told her ok let me know when you have free time.

 

I left it at that and she said ok back and I did not reply back. What should I do now should I say hey I wanna see after acouple days. I deleted her on fb n snapshot when we broke up would it be acceptable to send her a friend rewuest and help would be appreciated.

 

Im very confused tp what to do at this time I still want this girl in my life.

Edited July 16, 2014 by a LoveShack.org Moderator

[ponchsox]

You meant "break" and paragraphs are your friend.

[pbgunz35]

Sorry man im using a phone. I apoligize but what do you think?

[ponchsox]

How old are you guys? It sounds like she's feeling guilty for sleeping with you. She doesn't sound like she wants to be in a relationship with you. I would start NC, learn from this, and move on.

[pbgunz35]

I am 24 & she is 22. I think she feels guilty but after sleeping with me she did tell me how she still loves me and cares about me & yes we both agreed a relationship would not work out but if anything im asking to be good friends with her.

She has always been the one first contacting me.

[Elle1975]

Don't send her any fb, twitter, or w/e you use request, no.

 

If you do have a shot at it, the last thing you want to do is come up as full force clingy.

[pbgunz35]

Don't send her any fb, twitter, or w/e you use request, no.

 

If you do have a shot at it, the last thing you want to do is come up as full force clingy.

 

 

This is very true thanks!! Just needed someone else's opinion. Since I asked her about going to the movies and she said that is fine. I then told her let me know when she is available and left it at that. Should I wait for her to respond to me and tell me when she is available or I was thinking in a week and saying im thinking about you and im still interested in taking you to the movies

[pbgunz35]

Yea I am giving her some time to sink it all in. I was thinking possibly this weekend texting her and saying. Ive been about you. Could we possibly get a drink this weekend? I know she had a blast with me that night and I know thats one thing she is also sad about because I always make her smile and we get along great.. she just does not trust me anymore but I wanna gain my trust back from her even if we dont get back together and it took a year being friends.

[pbgunz35]

So ill try to keep this short. So me and my ex gf we only dated for 3 months and everything was going smoothly intill I didnt start trusting her and she did not trust me. We started fighting about it. We ended up taking a week break and she wanted to end things because she could still not trust me.

 

So 3 weeks went by and we didnt talk intill she saw me out at the bar and texted me. We chated it up and ended up seeing each other the next day and hooked up told each other we still love and care for each other we were txting the whole week and met up again the week after and still felt the same but she was not sure if she could trust me anymore..

 

So my question is should I keep texting her because when I text her she barely replys back with anything and doesnt seem like she is trying and im doing all the work. Should I keep trying and keep her attention. Like tonight she has a contest I thought about texting her and saying good luck. Im confused if I should just move on or actually keep trying..

[Smarty Pants]

Move on.

 

She's playing games that you don't have time nor the patience for.

 

You only dated 3 months and trust wasn't there? Not a good sign.

[pbgunz35]

Thats exactly what I was thinking. Im coming to the point where im moving on fine I dont have time for games and told her we could take things slow. The other night I offered to her to watch a movie and she was to busy with school work. So its to the point where the phone works both ways. Im tired of being the one always trying. If she truly cares and loves me she will contact me.