Sarah9442 Posted July 15, 2014 Posted July 15, 2014 Broke up with my boyfriend of 2 years about a week ago. A little background..our relationship had plenty of ups and downs but the downs became unbearable. Within the past few years I've dealt with emotional abuse and a few episodes of physical. Lying, slight infidelity, constant degrading, jealousy.. You name it.. We've dealt with it. So why in the world do I miss him so much!! I broke up with him and he said "whatever you want to do" when asked for my stuff back he said "f you".. He went out to the bar the night I broke up with him and then the night after when I was there he was all over some girl (less attractive than me) in the same room as I was. He hasn't tried to contact me...but I can tell he has logged into my Facebook. Does he care or not? I know part of me wants him to come begging back but I know I left him for a reason. Hes a very prideful person so I don't think he'll show me any weakness. We haven't talked since I went and got my stuff from his house and he wasn't there he left it on the front steps. My family and friends hate him and he hates them as well. How the hell to I make moving on any easier. It's physically painful right now the thought of him with someone else leaves me aching
SoThatHappened Posted July 15, 2014 Posted July 15, 2014 Sarah, It sucks, but the heart wants what the heart wants. Unfortunately, your heart wants a toolbag... There are amazing guys out there who don't put women through this type of abuse. Unfortunately, a lot of women aren't always attracted to that. I treated a previous ex like crap. I didn't want to be with her because of many things she did, but she wouldn't let me end it either. Guess what? She did anything to stay with me. I love and loved her, but wanted out (and for good reason). The thing was, when I wanted out and didn't care, she couldn't stand to lose me. Current ex: Gave and did everything for her. Was literally the perfect boyfriend. She strayed and bailed on me in 7 months for a guy she works with. My point is, it's not what's wrong with them, it's what's wrong with us. Do you really want to spend the rest of your life with someone like your ex? Sure it's exciting and drama-filled, but in the long run, you'll look 40 by the time you're 30 just because you're chasing something you can't have. Let... him... go. Find a good guy and let your head be as much a part of the decision-making as your heart. You will find someone better if you give the good guy the chance. Also, good guys can be pretty bad@ss when you take everything into account.
emotionalMess Posted July 15, 2014 Posted July 15, 2014 He is as fed up with the relationship as you are and he probably stopped caring a while ago. Move on, this guys is not right for you. When you are with the right person, you will know it. Go No Contact ASAP. Complete NC. Do not leave any holes open for contact!
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