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I wonder how many find that this is true? In my situtation neither one of us was cheating or lying. I try so hard to leave him, but that did not work. The sparkes for each other was always there despite of the problems. Am I the only one feel this way? that once the love is there everything will fall into place?

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Sure this is possible and it's even possible for couples who were once in the most toxic RSs to get back together and last forever, too.

 

BUT the only guarantees in life are "death and taxes."

 

Anything goes in love. There are no rules, only expectations and boundries.

Once crossed, some people never look back and some do. Who knows ?

 

In my case, I carry on with life happily and focused (for the most part lol) but still carry my ex around in the background. I don't do this purposely but I know he'll always be in my heart, despite everything. I loved him more and so much further than "all the way." It was not by choice, that's for sure. Gosh, if only we could choose who we love!

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Sure this is possible and it's even possible for couples who were once in the most toxic RSs to get back together and last forever, too.

 

BUT the only guarantees in life are "death and taxes."

 

Anything goes in love. There are no rules, only expectations and boundries.

Once crossed, some people never look back and some do. Who knows ?

 

In my case, I carry on with life happily and focused (for the most part lol) but still carry my ex around in the background. I don't do this purposely but I know he'll always be in my heart, despite everything. I loved him more and so much further than "all the way." It was not by choice, that's for sure. Gosh, if only we could choose who we love!

 

 

Its a wonderful thing to be loved :) You are right " expectations" is also very important. Because of what I expect and would accept in a man I was not able to find one for 8 years lol I met my fiance throught family member and he was NOT what I expected ;) after we fell in love with each other I am looking for more and more (letting go of his bad habits) that's what causing the problems.

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Quick follow up on my fiance. At this moment I dont hear any words about "marriage" anymore. Eversince he back home with his mother things are different. He sure is holding back from future plannings together, I am asuming his family is advising him how to lol

 

For my self, my rent went back down to what it was since he left also I cut him off of comming during the week at my house. He is ONLY allow to visit on the weekend. Thats if I am "available" ;) When it comes to money spending, I pay all my bills myself! when he comes to visit and he want to bring to the table thats fine, if he want to cook or buy anything he has to spend his money. I am no longer spending on him anymore. Feels better that way where I am in control back of my own life and spending.

 

We are together for now, Only God knows where its heading for the future. I would be posting my updates as the time goes ;) He still is an Alcholic I dont know when he would make changes in his life, how ever I am not putting my life on hold for him. I'm still living and loving my life to the fullest. STRESS FREEEE! hAPPY hAPPY ;)

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