Jip09 Posted July 15, 2014 Posted July 15, 2014 (edited) Hi guys Me and my ex have been split up for over a year, i have been no contact the entire time since we broke up, though she asked how i was to my parents a few months back but has never contacted me directly. Are break up was fairly bad and she went into another relationship about a month or two after we split. However the other night she came up to me in a bar, she was fairly sober, said hello asked me how i was and what i was doing with myself, she said this rather nervously and couldn't really look me in the eyes, where out of nowehere she said she has been split up with her boyfriend for 2months , but anyway i was polite and answered her questions and avoided talking about her recent split with her boyfriend of a year and the then politely said have a nice night and went back up to the bar for a drink and never seen her again that night. Fast foward a month i did however emailed her and said that i hoped there was no animosity between us and so on, she said the same back but also said that she has been wanting to chat to me for ages, (but hasn't). A week after this email she followed me on twitter. Now the question is how do i go about this, i don't want to follow her back because if im honest i don't want to know what shes up to or who she is talkign too etc. Ill admit i do still find my ex attractive and i do like her after bumping in to her at the bar as mentioned. But there is a part of me that thinks she has followed me on twitter to get back at her ex who who probably monitors her twitter as he is a bit of a loose cannon and he has recently liked a tweet of mine even though he doesn't even follow me! i've also heard that it was her who instigated their break up. I wondering also is she trying to reach out to me or get close with me? Edited July 15, 2014 by Jip09
d0nnivain Posted July 15, 2014 Posted July 15, 2014 Who knows? It was probably just a friendly overture. I don't tweet. If you can decline her request to follow you or limit what she sees I'd do that. You don't have to follow her back at all. You were polite when you bumped into her. That is all that is required.
Author Jip09 Posted July 15, 2014 Author Posted July 15, 2014 (edited) Thanks for the quick reply! I am not going to, despite disliking that i am not because i don't want to seem like an *******. But i mean she followed me and now her boyfriend has liked one of my tweets just seems very much like her intention was to piss him off/gain his attention. I don't want to be used as a weapon or to be caught up in all this it's unfair, this is of course my gut feeling i could be wrong mind! Edited July 15, 2014 by Jip09
bluelady Posted July 15, 2014 Posted July 15, 2014 Generally after a year or so my exes (irrelevant of who dumped who) are friendly again for awhile. I think she's just trying to make up for the fact that your break up ended badly and trying to be friendly. After dating someone else, you learn a lot and may realize that you were harsh to the person you were dating previously. Maybe she just realized you were a nice guy and she should have been nicer after dating this guy who isn't so nice. She doesn't sound like she's trying to be vicious or get you back otherwise her approaches would probably be different. Just don't follow her back or worry about it. You were kind enough and it doesn't sound like there is a problem.
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