Sadcakesleo Posted July 15, 2014 Posted July 15, 2014 Hi everyone! Quick lead up am recently going through a separation and I have one kid. I met this girl about a month ago and we have texted pretty much every day both her and I equally initiate. First 2 dates were drinks and on the 2nd date after drinks we walked around town holding hands and just talking. Next date she took me to a baseball game and again holding hands and cuddling and stuff. I tried to kiss her but she said that we agreed to take things slow which we did agree too. Our last date she came to my work and we had lunch. We have both discussed taking things slow and seeing where it goes because she just got out of a long term relationship 4 months ago and I'm going through separation. We both go out with our friends a lot and she has brought up a few times that it seems i go out a lot just like her ex bf. I said she does too but she says its because shes single which I don't get because I am too. She says that once shes in a relationship its all about the relationship and I said that it shouldn't be. I get these two weird long texts that say: her: I kinda figured u r not the type who is settling down from our past conversations these past few weeks.i dont easily like someone..plus i want to get to know and make sure i am choosing the right one because i dont have time for people who come and go.you said that if we got together that we should still have our separate life and I don't understand that.You hang out with your friends kinda too much. me: I appreciate your honestly and feel the same way about things that you do. I think you misinterpreted what i was saying. I meant that couples that can do separate things and trust each other grow stronger. I understand if you don't want to keep talking but still hope you do. she said yes she does still A few days later I get another long text her: I sense that we aren't going to be compatible later on down the road because of some of the things you asked me or want. I can be a very jealous gf if I really love my bf. I'm kind of strict and tend to be in control. ill be tripping if my bf texts other girls whether or not i know them.I can overthink at times about those things. its better to be safe that sorry.trust or no trust is not the point. I didn't really know what to say except that i really liked her and I was bummed that she was over thinking it and that is not how a relationship together would be like. She asked if we can talk about it later and I was like sure just call or text but she wants to go have drinks and talk about it. I don't understand why we have to go talk about things over drinks. She said her peace and I don't understand what she can possibly say now. I do really like her though so it's really messing with my head. Can anybody tell me what the point of talking in person about this is? I mean we were never together and what can she possibly say that she hasn't already said. It's driving me crazy!
Miss Awesome Posted July 15, 2014 Posted July 15, 2014 Sounds like there is no point. Sounds like a relationship with this girl would be more of the same plus jealousy and attempts to control you. I say cut your losses and count yourself lucky that it didn't go any further.
Mo_Do Posted July 15, 2014 Posted July 15, 2014 I think its all bs - she's simply not over her ex and doesn't know what to tell you.
sugarlove Posted July 15, 2014 Posted July 15, 2014 ONe of the biggest things you have to agree on is the amount of space you both need. Because it'll always come up some way or another. And this whole thing will always be something you're going to argue about. She sounded like it's her way or the highway which isn't how relationship should start. There is no trust and no flexibility. No matter how nice she is now, she'll show more of her nasty face later. Some guys prefer to be dominated but if you don't, then give up.
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