Leigh 87 Posted July 17, 2014 Posted July 17, 2014 Well, also, you haven't talked about your sex life with her (and you don't need to), but that's relevant. If things are great in the bedroom, then you two obviously do have an attraction that you can build upon, and it would be worth getting over your more minor quibbles. But if things are lukewarm in that department, and you're feeling iffy on your fundamental compatibility, maybe it's just not the right fit. I will add that it's pretty normal to have this sort of internal process when you're first getting into dating someone. It's pretty daunting to make the choice to direct all of your energy and affection toward one person, and your brain's going to inevitably put up some obstacles. Everyone has those moments of doubt, like, "Wait, am I actually attracted to this person?" and "Sh*t, this bothers me" that you have to work through. Uhh no. Not everywhere has those moments of " geez am I really attracted to her?" My bf sure didnt have moments where he wondered whether or not he was.even attracted Sure I dont always Look nice or pretty. But he is adamant that when he is crazy about a woman, he just doesnt doubt whether or not he IS attracted..... I dont get it. If you are nuts about someone you adorable the heck out of too big forheads or cooked noses. Sure, you can think " hmm they dont look as pretty as usual" but I have never met a man who was head over heels for a girl, and had moments where he doubted or not whether he was even that attracted to her............ 1
Leigh 87 Posted July 17, 2014 Posted July 17, 2014 Let the girl go:sick: I speak from experience. My ex boyfriend felt the same way. He wasnt sure if he was even attracted to me; he had moments of thinking I was pretty and really good looking, but overwhelmingly he was totally ambiguous about my level of physical attraction........... 1
man_in_the_box Posted July 17, 2014 Posted July 17, 2014 for everyone who defends this girl. I don't like to defend her attitude, she practically tricked the guy into believing she is so hot, and then changed back into something else.. IDK but I'd hardly call 6 weeks a bait and trick - also considering that were talking about a ponytail and (apparent) poor choice in cloths - not 100 pounds, radical personality changes, addictions etc. If it was a BaT then it's pretty poorly pulled off. 5
Diezel Posted July 17, 2014 Posted July 17, 2014 Anyone who believes that it's possible to 'have got the guy' in 6 weeks is not terribly smart. Huh? There are women who know they "got the guy" in the first week. 2
maysj18 Posted July 17, 2014 Posted July 17, 2014 Why is everyone saying she "let herself go" as if she quit showering, brushing her hair, her teeth, or gaining massive amounts of weight? To me, it just sounds like their relationship has gotten more comfortable and chilled out so this girl is, GOD FORBID, not spending hours getting ready anymore and is simply looking normal. I know some women who overly obsess with "never letting my man see me natural" that they will set their alarms earlier than necessary so they can make sure their teeth are brushed and their make-up is on before he wakes up. How pathetic is that? Why is that okay? Make-up, minty fresh breath 24/7, and perfect voluminous hair is not "normal" and should never be expected of someone all the time. I take great care of myself by working out, expensive hair treatments, quality skincare regimens, etc. but more times than not, I'm in yoga pants and t-shirts unless I have a conference or a planned outing. I haven't "let myself go", I'm just comfortable enough to go out barefaced and you know what? Nobody even notices because they're all looking the same way. 6
Lipitor11 Posted July 17, 2014 Posted July 17, 2014 Don't all women "let themselves go after they lock a man down?" I've seen some married women that don't even put any effort in their looks-to the point where they look unattractive. And I'm like how can her she even have a husband? Then I think to myself, she probably looked hot in the first stages of dating. 1
lollipopspot Posted July 17, 2014 Posted July 17, 2014 Don't all women "let themselves go after they lock a man down?" I've seen some married women that don't even put any effort in their looks-to the point where they look unattractive. And I'm like how can her she even have a husband? Then I think to myself, she probably looked hot in the first stages of dating. What do these counterpart guys look like? What kind of effort do they put into their appearance? When you see a guy who's with a woman, and he's wearing tennis shoes and a t-shirt (and he's not out for a run), do you think he probably looked hot in the first stages of dating?
Els Posted July 18, 2014 Posted July 18, 2014 Huh? There are women who know they "got the guy" in the first week. The poster I quoted was mentioning that in a 'see she waited until it was too late for him to leave and then she tricked him!' way. It's hardly too late to leave at 6 weeks, which makes that angle sound rather exaggerated and overblown.
Eternal Sunshine Posted July 18, 2014 Posted July 18, 2014 Not everyone has those moments. I only had them when I wasn't attracted to someone but tried to talk myself into it because he was a "good guy". Never works. 1
Leigh 87 Posted July 18, 2014 Posted July 18, 2014 LOL. Well today I got my eyebrows tinted and shaped. When you first get brows tinted, they look VERY dark - I was also wearing deep lipstick. I looked like a clown:lmao: He still cannot stop telling me how cute I am. Looks are not everything, if a person is fundamentally attracted to you then you can get away with looking not your best and your partner will not have "those moments" ..... 1
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