Plac Posted July 14, 2014 Posted July 14, 2014 Hi! So my story is that I met her when she was at her very lowest in life. She was having psychological problems, cutting herself, not having friends, not doing anything productive in life. I slowly, over the course of 2 years helped her out at the expense of some of my friends, some of my good traits of character(I had to dampen my social interaction which makes me feel who I really am etc.). I sacrificed a lot for her in other words. Then in our relationship there were many problems(of course). Some was a poor sex life generally because of my lack of feeling "relaxed" with her. I didnt feel like she was making me feel good in life, she was generally not supportive and helping me up again after the sacrifices I made. I feel it was mostly because we were not able to identify what it was at that time. Now, I have been a year on exchange in which we saw each other three times, and it was mostly nice. She was emotionally very into me at that time, but I still felt that she is not able to get a grip on her life and that she is very dependent upon me which was not making it possible for me to progress. We talked a lot about it throughout the years and in april this year we decided to cut our relationship. No-contact period, after which it turned out she found someone new with whom as she says she enjoyes the sex and who makes her feel ´like a woman´. Among other things, it feels as if she has changed, became more self dependent etc. In such a form I feel I really want her, cause this way I could develop. The story is of course more complicated than it is written, I cant possibly give an account of 3 years in reasonable amount of space . I just wonder, do you think it is possible to recover her? If so, what would you do? The strong point is, that we were able to talk through many of our mistakes and we really understood them. I have feelings for her, she seems to care about me and is definitely not neutral to how I feel. We will meet in person in 3 weeks.
d0nnivain Posted July 15, 2014 Posted July 15, 2014 If she is already in a new relationship with another man, I don't think there is anything to recover. Based on when you two came together you developed some bad patterns which are probably too ingrained to break. Be glad for her that she found happiness & move on to a relationship that is healthier & more fulfilling for you.
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