ponchsox Posted July 14, 2014 Posted July 14, 2014 Met a girl online, we had a great first date and kissed at the end of the night. We met again the next night for dinner and a movie. I kissed her in the car and ended up french kissing her for quite a bit. It was a moment where i felt it was right, the chemistry was high, and she seemed quite into it. She did tell me earlier she wanted to take it slow. I feel like I kind of disregarded her and still went for it. I want to show her affection, yet really want to get to know this girl. We haven't spoken since Sat night. I sent her a "hi, how are you today" text and she responded good, how are you? quickly. I'm not sure if I should call her and bring this up, is an apology warranted? Or do I let it go and just be cool? Do you think she's still thinking about it?
Diezel Posted July 14, 2014 Posted July 14, 2014 Don't apologize for something you aren't really sorry for doing you. It shows a lack of character and backbone. She kissed you back, right? Okay. Call her and just ask her out again. 5
MikeyBe Posted July 14, 2014 Posted July 14, 2014 Ask for another date and take it slower. Try something more active then dinner or something that leads into the night.
Cunning_Linguist Posted July 14, 2014 Posted July 14, 2014 Why would you apologize for wanting to **** her? She is attractive, and you wanted her. There is nothing wrong with that. Yeah, maybe you should've shown some restraint and took it slower, but you wanted something and went for it. Relax and enjoy it. Let her know next time that you really enjoyed the other night, but you agree, let's take it slow and let that tension build.
Author ponchsox Posted July 14, 2014 Author Posted July 14, 2014 Don't apologize for something you aren't really sorry for doing you. It shows a lack of character and backbone. She kissed you back, right? Okay. Call her and just ask her out again. It was definitely reciprocated, but I kinda feel like I took advantage of her and I don't want to make her feel like I'm just trying to get in her pants. Am I worrying too much and should I just keep going with the flow? I'm the type of person that likes to go for it when I feel the time is right.
Diezel Posted July 14, 2014 Posted July 14, 2014 Re-read what you just wrote. She reciprocated. Had she felt that she was taken advantage of, she wouldn't have.
Author ponchsox Posted July 14, 2014 Author Posted July 14, 2014 Re-read what you just wrote. She reciprocated. Had she felt that she was taken advantage of, she wouldn't have. Agreed. I like the idea of taking it slow but I don't want to slow down the physical affection. She must enjoy it if she's shoving her tongue in my mouth and lets me kiss her neck, right?
pteromom Posted July 14, 2014 Posted July 14, 2014 Kissing isn't taking it too far. Just call and ask her out again, and make sure you do something on your date that allows you to talk and do something together that ISN'T just making out, so that she knows you are interested in her for more than sex. And don't go further than kissing until she is ready. Sometimes, when girls say "I want to take it slow", they have a time frame in mind. But sometimes, they just mean "I want to make sure you aren't using me before I sleep with you." And that can actually go much more quickly than you'd imagine, if you are showing interest in her on a friendship and romantic level as well as physical. 1
Author ponchsox Posted July 14, 2014 Author Posted July 14, 2014 I'll be honest I've been guilty of taking a while to show physical affection in the past. This is one area in dating I'm working on, with the right person and when it's natural. I guess it's better to show more affection than very little or none at all when you're interested in someone.
phineas Posted July 14, 2014 Posted July 14, 2014 Apologize for what? Being a man? Good luck dating her after that.
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