HopelessRomanticGuy Posted July 14, 2014 Posted July 14, 2014 Title was supposed to say "Women's advice only please!!!" So my ex text me today(she was the dumper) "Good Afternoon". At first I thought maybe she just missed me, and I'm sure to some degree she does, but after some small chat she asked me if her dress was at my place, which it is. She left it at my place before we broke up. We were in a LDR that lasted about 4 months. We've been broken up for about two weeks and NC for about 5 days. It wasn't a blowout breakup. Can you please help me interpret the conversation? I replied "It is here, would you like me to send it to you? Or you can pick it up if you want?" She replied "aw man -lol. I forgot but I'm at least happy to know where it is. I'll probably see you at some point this summer. I think I can wait till then." Was she just to afraid of hurting me by asking me to send it back? Or is she going to use it as an excuse to see me later? I'm so confused. I'm temped to just send it back to her because I don't want her to A. feel like she has to visit to get her dress back or B. Use it as an excuse to see me. I just don't want to be hasty and make things worse What do you think? Thanks!
Zahara Posted July 14, 2014 Posted July 14, 2014 Send the dress back to her. You don't want her entering and exiting your life whenever she feels like it because that derails your healing efforts. Don't place any stock in what she said. She was just asking for a dress.
honeyhoney Posted July 14, 2014 Posted July 14, 2014 Well, how far does she live from you? If she is close enough and she can wait to get her dress back, then it is what it is... Why is she assuming she'll see you at some point during the summer if you are broken up Dont set your self up for mind games, send her the dress back and dont contact her again Best of luck
music_and_poetry Posted July 14, 2014 Posted July 14, 2014 Send the dress back to her. You don't want her entering and exiting your life whenever she feels like it because that derails your healing efforts. Don't place any stock in what she said. She was just asking for a dress. I agree. Mail the dress to her and delete her phone number. 2
Author HopelessRomanticGuy Posted July 14, 2014 Author Posted July 14, 2014 It's a complicated situation. We started out as friends. Became FWB. She thought it was a bad idea to try a serious LDR relationship. I agreed at first but fell head over heels for her. She eventually fell in love with me and we started dating. Unfortunately, it became to much for both of us, but I wanted to at least talk about it. She broke up with me. We both apologized to each other, said we love each other, and decided to not throw the baby out with the bath water. The timing wasn't right for a serious relationship. However, when she is done with school after the summer, there is potential for us to date again. In the mean time I am working on myself and trying to give her space.
gj13 Posted July 14, 2014 Posted July 14, 2014 Just send the dress or give it to someone who can see her and give it back. Keeping it there can be viewed as a way of you accepting that she can drop by out of the blue to get it back and NO! you don't want that, no need. It's a lame excuse on her end to leave the door open.
Author HopelessRomanticGuy Posted July 14, 2014 Author Posted July 14, 2014 I am packing it up and sending it out tomorrow. Thanks for the advice!
No Limit Posted July 14, 2014 Posted July 14, 2014 Send the dress, delete her number, cut all ties. edit; grr, should read the thread every now and then. Well, good decision!
umirano Posted July 15, 2014 Posted July 15, 2014 Send it. Here's my story: We BU 3 months ago. I'm trying NC, she keeps contacting me. Then I tell her I can't have her popping back into my life every other week, I tell her that I boxed up her stuff and put it away. She immediately tells me not to mail it off. NC for a month and then she suddenly emails me some rant about an email account that I made for her 3 years ago and demands that I send her stuff back. It's just a tool for her to get back at you and get your emotions up. 1
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