stateofgrace Posted July 15, 2014 Posted July 15, 2014 I think that you need to relax. You had a couple minor arguments, that's normal for a relationship. I realize you're new, but if you keep bringing up things like this, she will get fed up and leave. You approached her with the FB issue, it's done now, nothing you can do about it. You reactivated your Twitter, she asked why you said you didn't have it, you answered, it's done. Leave it alone. For the record, based on the conversation you provided regarding the Twitter thing, in my opinion you made a bigger deal of it than necessary. It didn't sound like she was interrogating you at all, she literally just asked you a question and you kinda blew it out of proportion. You can't keep doing that and expecting her to stick around and put up with it. Sorry to be harsh, but it seems it might be something you need to hear. Relationships will not be rainbows and butterflies all the time. You said you thought being in a relationship would be you guys bonding with a bunch of happiness. Yes. True. But that's not what it's going to be like all the time. A) the would get real old, real fast and B) no one can be happy in every situation all the time. Arguments are bound to happen when you're in an intimate relationship with someone, you just have to deal with them and move on. Don't dwell on them and don't keep bringing them up. Also, before you approach her with an issue next time, think about it first. Sometimes things will happen in relationships (or just life in general) that you just have to stop and think to yourself "is this really worth bringing up?" "am I making a mountain out of a mole hill?" "am I over-reacting or over-thinking this situation?" Take a couple deep breaths next time and don't jump the gun. Give her the benefit of the doubt. One more thing, don't hash out relationship issues over text. That's literally the WORST way to do that. Texts can be misconstrued, taken out of context, and there's no emotion that comes with texting. If you have an issue, bring it up face-to-face like an adult man. Just my two cents. 1
Author RyanBeynolds Posted July 15, 2014 Author Posted July 15, 2014 (edited) Short answer: I don't think you two are compatible. I've pondered this a few times. Stateofgrace: Thank you. I didn't feel like you were harsh at all. I know I have a character flaw in just saying what is on my mind, right away. I will definitely think things through, or maybe just wait it out until I see how I feel the next day about something if it bothers me. I will try my best not to get hung up over the petty arguments. I really do love her so I will hang in there and see how this goes. Hopefully I don't have to keep posting here, although this is a very interesting forum! EDIT: Oops, forgot to address why we are texting. She is at work (she always texts me because she never has anything to do). I told her before that some things are just better to be talked about over the phone rather than texting. We are 3 hours away from each other because she took a job back home over the Summer. Edited July 15, 2014 by RyanBeynolds
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