GiantsFan2018 Posted July 14, 2014 Posted July 14, 2014 Hey everyone, I hope that you all are doing well! Thanks for reading my post. Just some background information, I'm going to be a freshman in college in August. I've been going after this girl, I'll call her Sophie, for a few months now. We've gone on a few dates and hung out, gotten to know each other, etc. and she just told me yesterday while we were hanging out she wanted to be more than friends. I was pretty pumped. I'm not really sure if we're going to do exclusive or anything, I feel like it's too early to discuss that with her, but that's not the point. Problem is, I had already scheduled to hang out with another girl for this weekend. She just moved here recently so I was going to show her around town. I've talked to her once or twice, so I feel like it would much more of a date scenario than some platonic hanging out thing. This is making me uncomfortable because I feel like I'm going behind Sophie's back here since she just told me that she definitely wants to be more. Even though we haven't discussed exclusivity or anything, I'm 99% sure that it'll eventually develop into that eventually with her, as I've noticed she only says things like "I want to be more than friends," if she's absolutely sure. She's not the type of girl to just hook up, so I know she's not aiming for that either. So, normally, I would have canceled this date with girl 2 if I felt so uncomfortable with it, right? However, I feel like a total dick doing this, because 1. she just moved here and has no friends in town and I'd be ditching her and 2. girl 2 is going to the same college as both myself and Sophie, so girl 2's friends might get the impression from her that I'm some dick that bails on people. I don't want to get with girl 2 and don't want it to be a date, but hanging out one on one with some girl that I barely know (and I had the intention of it being a date when I scheduled it) seems pretty bad to me. So, should I just cancel with girl 2? I don't like how it might lower my reputation in the eyes of some of the girls at my new college, but I feel like I can make an excuse to get off the hook for it that won't make me seem like an ass. At the same time, I feel like I'm taking this thing w/ Sophie way too seriously; like seriously, we haven't discussed exclusivity at all, but again, my gut feeling is that it's definitely going to develop into that. If Sophie and I do end up in a serious relationship, I'll feel so guilty for going on this 'date' with this girl a week after Sophie told me she likes me. Haha, just typing this up feels like typical high school drama. So, Loveshack, should I cancel or no? Maybe there's another possible solution? Thank you so much!
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