bestrong95 Posted July 14, 2014 Posted July 14, 2014 Hi everyone! I'm trying to make this as short and precise as possible. My boyfriend and I have been dating for half a year. He recently when on vacation for the summer. He is a sweet and sensitive guy and I am his first official girlfriend. When he's in the State, we see each other everyday. He always tell me how important I am to him and how much he will try to be a better man this summer for me and for himself. Before he left, he promised to try to contact me often. He went for a trip to Korea the first half of the summer with his family in the rural area. Therefore, he rarely got wifi which I at first couldn't understand why he couldn't try to go to a cafe and use the wifi there instead, so we argued a few times. He said he always tried to look for wifi like a mad man and could only rushed in short messages. But we always made up and tried to understand one another point of view. Recently he went back to his home on an island where all his friends and family are. He has only contacted me once ever since and I got really mad as why can he talked more now that he has wifi at his house. I questioned how busy could he be that he couldn't send me a quick message. He replied and said sorry that he has been busy shadowing at a hospital and only have time later at night but it seems i'm letting the things going on at home affecting our relationship and his vacation too. He also said that it'll be his last time to go home. In a rage, I replied and said that it seems like only I want to talk to hi, etc. But I calm down, apologized, and asked him to not given up on us. He replied 3 days later and said sorry again that he was busy shadowing, told me to take good care of myself when I said i was sick and enjoy my vacation, said he misses me too and planned to talk to me the next day. He never came online and has not replied ever since when I asked if he had forgot and if everything is okay. It has been 4 days and he just saw my messages today on Facebook. Is the active things on Facebook mobile chat accurate? I saw him active a few times but never reply to me. Does he still care? How could he not remember me? When he was in Asia, he still tried to message me more despite the lack of internet compare to right now. I just hate not knowing how he is feeling and what he is doing. He has been cheated on before but I am scared that he'd cheat on me because I used to complain too much. I want to know so I can move on too if anything.
d0nnivain Posted July 14, 2014 Posted July 14, 2014 Your expectations are completely unreasonable & your demands may drive him away. He is apparently busy & in an area where communication is a challenge. Unlike you he's not sitting around all day waiting to hear from somebody. Get off your computer. Put your phone away. Actually do something with your summer. When he gets back you will both have adventures to share. In the bad old days, before all this electronic communication you would have been forced to wait for weeks at a time for one snail mail letter. Enjoy the modern marvels but stop pressuring him. 1
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