danielleeroseee Posted July 14, 2014 Posted July 14, 2014 Me & this guy started talking in February.. he asked for my number on twitter.. we texted a bit but i was like eh whatever.. I ignored him for 5 months & he blew up my phone trying to meet me so finally I texted him wanting to hang out & we did. I liked him sooo much. early on he asked me if i would ever move in with a bf he took me on vacation with himm.. he was 19 just turned 20 ill be 21 in October.. anyways he was so sweet wanting to take me out and buy me things & he was so affectionate in public. ive never had that so i loved it. we went on vacation that is when he was telling me he wants a long relationship someone he can last with he promised he wouldnt hurt me and all this so stupidly i slept with him. (he asked me out that day under the st Louis arch) after that he was sweet for awhile i guess he wanted me to spend a week or so at his house every time we hung out because i live two hours away. so i did. i made him dinner cleaned his house while he was at work.. did everything for him. he loved it he said but he never said thank you. on his b day while he was out i went to the store bought him a cake & stuff & decorated his apartment & surprised him when he got home.. he didnt care didnt say thank you hug me or kiss me.. he started not being as sweet over text and not affectionate in person as much.i caught him talkin to other girls & he said that he likes talking to girls so i asked if he wanted to be single he said no he wanted to be with me he said he saw a future with me & he wouldn't talk to ther girls.. so i went home on thursday & out of nowhere he just would ignore me for hours he said i just spent a week there he doesnt feel the need to talk all the time.. I was hurt.. he ignored me friday Saturday i would text him every couple hours wondering what was going on why he was on fb responding to people but not me.. finally i get a text today saying he cant do it anymore he wants to be able to do what he wants when he wants & whats to do what he wants with girls... i was crushed.. I dont sleep with a lot of people my number is soo low & i feel so used.. I have stuff at his place & just a few hours after we broke up i texted him to tell him that & he pretty much told me he moved on & i need to do the same.. I'm so lost & hurt and don't know what went wrong.. he said he wanted a lasting relationship then he just ends it so easily.. our one month would be on the 18th.. plus i should add when he and i first started talking he told me he he hated parties and drinking & going out but every weekend after we started dating he went out with his buddies to the clubs and such and i confronted him & he called me controlling.. I'm jjust so lost like why date me if you want to be single.. I asked him if he wanted to be single.. was he waiting for me to go home to dump me? what do i do? (i should also add i have a big guard up that is part of the reason I ignored him for 5 months.. I get hurt a lot..) ALSO: i messaged him again saying sorry for whatever I did but maybe in a few weeks after we both settle down after this breakup one of us can message eachother & we can arrange for me to get my stuff.. he said "sounds good' do you think after maybe a few weeks he will want to get back together? not saying i will beacuse this really hurt mr im just wondering.. I just did soo much for him & he never appreciated it.. & i wonder if he will realize all I did after i'm gone..
d0nnivain Posted July 14, 2014 Posted July 14, 2014 Sadly he may have been one of those guys that liked the thrill of the chase. After spending too much time together things flared out for him.
Zahara Posted July 14, 2014 Posted July 14, 2014 This is the type of guy that runs on the feel good emotions when early into the courtship. Then as soon as you start playing girlfriend and playing house (cleaning his home, making a huge effort to celebrate his birthday) and start showing indication that you are getting serious and attached -- with effort and commitment dawning, he heads the other way because the thrill has gone. Get your stuff now and stop using it as an excuse to bide time hoping he may have a change of heart. If in a few weeks he acts ugly to you, you're going to hurt all over again. Get you belongings and shut the door.
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