Seraque Posted July 14, 2014 Posted July 14, 2014 Hi guys, I'm struggling to date this one person right now. Curious to hear some stories/advice/perspective I guess. I realize it may never come to anything serious other than dating and then going our separate ways. We went out about 3-4 times and they were really good dates and I felt he was opening up to me. Chemistry, talking about childhood, etc etc. Then the next date I made a couple of blunders and it was a bit awkward after that...we went out a couple more times after that and the last time we met he was still into me. Right now we're kind of waiting to see each other again since he's been out of town, and his feelings are kind of mixed I think. Would love to hear what happened to you, did things recover or did it go south...assessing my likely outcome... If you are a guy did you get thrown off course early in dating someone, and what happened or how did you feel?
acrosstheuniverse Posted July 14, 2014 Posted July 14, 2014 It's really hard to pass any comment unless you explain what you mean by blunders? For example if you overshared about difficult things in your history on date three or four it might not necessarily be that you made a dating blunder, but that he just isn't looking for somebody with a tough background, see what I mean? In my opinion it's very rare to recover from things going wrong this early, because they don't usually go wrong if both parties are equally invested. Usually if there are any problems the most likely culprit is that one person isn't too interested in continuing it further and the other is left wondering what they did or how to bring it back. You can't do anything to change it or make them feel any differently. 2
Conners Posted July 14, 2014 Posted July 14, 2014 I farted in my boyfriends bed the second time I slept over. We had only been seeing each other a few weeks. That was January 2013.
Elle1975 Posted July 14, 2014 Posted July 14, 2014 I farted in my boyfriends bed the second time I slept over. We had only been seeing each other a few weeks. That was January 2013. By boyfriend, do you mean the guy in question? Anyway.. if a guy farted in my bed, I'd expect a "ops, sorry" and I'd laugh it off. I don't think it's a criminal offense, it happens. There a difference between accidentally farting in bed, and farting loudly at the restaurant.
d0nnivain Posted July 14, 2014 Posted July 14, 2014 DH & I had a rocky start. He was in sales & although I liked him after our 1st date, when he didn't kiss me good night I was convinced I mis-read the situation & he wasn't interested. We took my dog for a walk in the woods on our 4th date & the dog cut his paw. He had to carry my 70 lb dog 1.5 miles back to the car so we could fix the paw. My house wasn't fit for company but I had to let him in to help the dog. We had met at the park & he hadn't been to my house yet. About 6 weeks in, my EX-BF committed suicide & left me in shock. I forgot to cancel my date with my new BF, now DH, who arrived at my house on a Saturday night to find me in my PJs, crying my eyes out on my living room floor. He actually helped me through my grief & we fell in love.
Author Seraque Posted July 14, 2014 Author Posted July 14, 2014 Ok, so it was a day we spent a lot of time together. First we were going to brunch and I didn't want to wait in line at the place and we just wondered off and ended up at this other place that wasnt brunch, when we both wanted brunch. It was pretty stupid on my part but I was being a little bit impulsive and he was easygoing but I think that wasn't that bad. Second, we were getting physical. I asked him if he had any stds/etc I should know about. Now I'm not the most experienced girl but I've asked this of my past bf/partners and they were fine with it. But something like this bothered this guy and it affected his performance, and later he told me he and his ex broke up over something about stds, etc. and I didn't really inquire further. So in the end I felt like it was my fault. We actually did a lot that day and had a lot of great moments. Come to think of it we did too many activities and spent too much time together and didn't really plan it ahead of time and I didnt think carefully before letting my guard down too much.
ponchsox Posted July 14, 2014 Posted July 14, 2014 Ok, so it was a day we spent a lot of time together. First we were going to brunch and I didn't want to wait in line at the place and we just wondered off and ended up at this other place that wasnt brunch, when we both wanted brunch. It was pretty stupid on my part but I was being a little bit impulsive and he was easygoing but I think that wasn't that bad. Second, we were getting physical. I asked him if he had any stds/etc I should know about. Now I'm not the most experienced girl but I've asked this of my past bf/partners and they were fine with it. But something like this bothered this guy and it affected his performance, and later he told me he and his ex broke up over something about stds, etc. and I didn't really inquire further. So in the end I felt like it was my fault. We actually did a lot that day and had a lot of great moments. Come to think of it we did too many activities and spent too much time together and didn't really plan it ahead of time and I didnt think carefully before letting my guard down too much. Wow, asking someone point blank if they have any STDs is brutal. I would be offended, even though I'm clean, I would take it as I'm a slut. They should be the one to tell you before physical intimacy. If they have any soul, that is.
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