starphish Posted February 21, 2005 Posted February 21, 2005 A few weeks ago my boyfriend of six months broke up with me, we were having a lot problems because we both weren’t prepared for a relationship, I really did like him and didn’t want to break up, we decided that after a couple of months we would try to be friends, those couple of months passed but now he tells me he doesn’t even want to be friends, I feel shattered because a part of me wanted it to work out as friends then hopefully he would want me back again, I feel so empty because I really liked him and believed that under the right circumstances we could love each other, I can’t help thinking that there’s something wrong with me for him not to like me as much as I like him. This all probably sounds really naïve… I know you can’t make people want you or like you or love you, but what’s so wrong with me that he doesn’t think he can? I dunno what to do…
TrueSmiles12 Posted February 21, 2005 Posted February 21, 2005 i absolutely, 100% feel your pain and where you're coming from. and i'm soooo sorry to even hear that there's pretty much the same exact situation out there... i had been on and off for 1 year with my ex of about a month now. and things just couldn't work themselves out, not even the second time around. and i'm still so hurt and still not ready to accept this loss and move on. and i know exactly how u feel. i would love to have the ability to make someone want to be with you and want to try to work things out and love you and care for you, etc etc. but i don't. and exactly... u can't help but wonder why, why can't he stick around? what's wrong with me? why doesn't he want to try anymore? and no, it does not sound naive... i am absolutely heartbroken, for the second time with the same guy. i was his first girlfriend/relationship and he simply is not dateable. and i still refuse to see that. to me, it's like i put so much into wanting and trying to make a relationship with him work, so why haven't i gotten anything good out of it? all i got was pain in return. complete and utter pain. he doesn't even feel the need to talk to me anymore, even when we have to be around each other everyday. it's like he hung me out to dry, not a care in the world for him. why???!!! why am i sitting here, torturing myself and thinking about him all day and night? when he's finally happy without me in his life and he doesn't even care about me?! why doesn't he care about me anymore, even after everything we've been through? and get this...... he text messaged me last night, "ur honestly ****ing insane" .... wow! i have never ever had anyone been so cruel to me like that. we didn't even have a bad breakup or a huge falling out, things just weren't working and he wasn't willing to work things out anymore. so why all this anger, resentment, and pretty much hatred towards me?! i can't say, but all i know is that it's not right, it's not right that all i have ever given him or showed him was good -- respect above all and i have never done him wrong. i still have so much blinded hope that this falling out is temporary and he'll come around again and we can be together again. but it's not fair, because as i sit here counting the days of no contact and hoping that he'll contact me, to even be an acquaintance or want me in his life at all, it's like i'm killing myself for someone that just doesn't care. and maybe there are just some people who have to go about dealing with things in this hurtful and disrespectful way... i will never be able to understand things like that.. i'm so hurt and it's going to take a lot of time to even try to move forward. even something as bad as that still doesn't make me truly see how wrong for me this guy is, and that's a huge problem. it's like i'm addicted to him or something. he makes me question who i am and my sanity, but i still keep hoping that he'll feel sorry, that he'll realize that he does care after all. i know i need to move on and just leave him behind, leave him in the past, but i also know that it's a lot easier said than done.. all i can say is that there is nothing wrong with you... keep your head up, i know that it's so hard sometimes, believe me i know, but there are just those kind of people that don't know what they want or don't know how to go about dealing with their feelings, but the best we can do is not get ourselves so wrapped up in that. it'll just keep driving us crazy and sometimes when you stop and think about it --- it would be nice to have someone who actually cares on the other end... please keep me updated about your situation and feel free to include any more details. i feel we have a lot to share and can help support each other.
babygirl6 Posted February 22, 2005 Posted February 22, 2005 I know how you feel. Boyfriends can be jerks but then again they can be the best thing that ever happened to you. You just gotta move on (try to) and when you heal, get a new one and shove it in the ex's face. One thing that helped (well more that one) is eating a WHOLE buttload of chocolete, sleeping in on weekends, and best of all, my bff's. Friends are there to comfort you through the worst of times, so cry on their sholder and they will be tere for you! ~babygirl~
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