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NC going fine but still wandering what if.. [updates - Ex unblocked me?!?]

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The more you break NC (pester her) the more annoyed she will get. It will push her further away. I know it feels like if you're doing nothing you're losing her, but it will benefit you both for a successful reconciliation or help you move on and start feeling great about yourself.

 

I treated NC like a game, see who would crack first. Don't crack ;)

 

I do feel like it's a game (wich my ex is better at apparantly lol) and I've lost it twice. How did NC work out for you?

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I know exactly how you are feeling. It's very hard but as previously mentioned it really will benefit you. It's basically a situation where you have nothing more to lose, but significant gains can be made. They may not be the gains you are hoping for currently, but regardless looking back on this you will feel prouder that you salvaged your pride, whatever the outcome.

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It's really hard at the beginning. Hanging there. It feels more and more natural after first couple weeks.

 

I understand how you feel. She made a decition for you. It againsts your well. The only thing we can do now is to accept it. Giving her space and cutting the attachment is the only thing you can do to protect the relationship getting worse. Be strong and have a good control of yourself.

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Okay so me and my ex got in a huge fight over the whatsapp, we texted later and kinda made up. She has still blocked me and even though I do not plan on contacting her it still feels like kicking me while I'm down. It has been three days now and I really expected she had unblocked me by now. I guess it is a sign she is officially done with me. We dated for a year and eight months and I have to admit I did not make it easy on her the last couple of weeks although she hasn't made it easy for me either. Again I don't even want to contact her but she apparently doesn't want me to contact her either and that hurts, I would wish that she contacted me, even if it's just to ignore her, it's vague but it would make me feel much better. Will she ever unblock me? If she did it would be a sign I'm still not forgotten, I know we can never be together anymore because I could never trust her again after she dumped me but still..

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This is how you started your op ''Okay so me and my ex got in a huge fight over the whatsapp'' She's your ex, you dont need to have any expectations from her anymore. She will unblock you probably but it wont matter.

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Same boat here. He got so mad. Blocked my number on his phone

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Block her and don't unblock. Then, you can stop checking every day and getting yourself down that you're still blocked.

 

Go NC. Block her. Move on...stop torturing yourself. Be strong.

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I do feel like it's a game (wich my ex is better at apparantly lol) and I've lost it twice. How did NC work out for you?

 

We had on/off NC for 4 months as in he (dumper) would crack and text me breadcrumbs. We finally had a month of silence while I was seeing someone else. Fast forward we were still on/off back/forth, we had another few weeks silence and now we are progressing.

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Block her and don't unblock. Then, you can stop checking every day and getting yourself down that you're still blocked.

 

Go NC. Block her. Move on...stop torturing yourself. Be strong.

 

I am on NC right now, not for me to move on (although it will happen eventually) but I am on NC because I don't want to ruin more than I already did. I like to think in a few months we will be talking again and maybe a miracle will happen, I know life is not a fairy tale so it's probably not going to happen. But knowing I will break more when I will contact her (especially when she blocked me) helps me stick to it, I hope the moving on will happen after a while.

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This is how you started your op ''Okay so me and my ex got in a huge fight over the whatsapp'' She's your ex, you dont need to have any expectations from her anymore. She will unblock you probably but it wont matter.

 

You're right, I don't even have the right to have expectations, although I still can't help but have the expectation that she will contact me some day. I hope my hope and expectations will fade over time.

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BOY, do I know that feeling. My ex blocked me off whatsapp for a YEAR once. (idk like july to march). It was horrible knowing I was blocked, like I wasn't a human being to her. But when a after she unblocked me, a year later we got a in a massive fight again and she blocked me again. This was 6 months ago. In return I defriended her off facebook.

 

Will she every unblock me? Probably not, but maybe if I ask her nicely. But at this point its doesn't matter, she can't spite me with that. In fact I got rid of my S4 and got myself a cheap 30$ sony erricson from like the early 2000s. NO NET, only calls.

 

The point I'm trying to say is:

 

1. will she unblock you? probably after a REALLY LONG time, and by that time it wouldn't matter to you either way.

 

2. These social network connections do more harm than good.

 

3. you can always call her, i mean she knows you have her no. she knows you can normal text her. But that's just a sign to not go near her.

 

 

 

Just give it time, it'll sting for a long time, but eventually things will set themselves. Blocking is a means of power, it's stupid, delete her no. or reverse block her. again, stupid. You coudln't do this kind of crap in the 90s.

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My ex blocked me because we got in a fight about 7/8 days ago, since then she has had me blocked on whatsapp. Today when I was looking for a contact through my list I noticed that she had unblocked me (I know because her avatar and last seen status has returned). Why would she unblock me? she hasn't talked to me so she has nothing to say to me I suppose. Is it to send off a signal? Could this be the NC effect on the dumper? I just really can't think of a reason she why she would unblock me if she's not going to talk to me.

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Why does it matter? Maybe it was a cathartic thing to do for her in order to let go of her past resentment and start the process of moving on with her life?

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She probably wants you to speak to her, my ex unblocked me on FB the other day but hasnt spoken to me and he has a GF I have no idea what it means but would love to know! x

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She probably wants you to speak to her, my ex unblocked me on FB the other day but hasnt spoken to me and he has a GF I have no idea what it means but would love to know! x

 

Perhaps but I've broken NC before and not with succes, it's nice to know that the other person still thinks about you too.

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What difference does it make? It just gives you false hope. Move on. It's for the best.

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Of course they think about us! Just not in the sweet, 'they truly miss us and want to get back together with us' kind of way.

 

I wouldn't get my hopes up. My ex has done things like this...we've been broken up for a year.

 

Keep calm and keep moving on.

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She felt guilty she blocked so she unblocked.

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When my ex unblocked me off whats app a year after we broke up it was her way of say "if you want to throw away any remaining self respect you have and try to get back with me..here's your bone. Oh by the way you have a -50 handicap in every dept. Compared to any other dude I meet."

 

F¥÷× that. Now we hate each others guts.

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My ex unblocked me to call me. Le sigh.

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My ex blocked me on Facebook several months ago. Every now and then I check to see if I'm still blocked.

 

I don't really know what it means if an ex unblocks you. One thing it says is that they went out of their way to let you contact them. But why, I have no idea.

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She may have just unblocked you so she could spy on you.

 

She was probably curious to see your page or any new profile pics/cover photos you may have added, etc...

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You summed it up really well there.. It is nice to know they still think about us to the lengths of unblocking especially after being made to feel like I don't exist for a year lol x

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I blocked a guy because he couldn't step up. I unblocked him because he's really not that important that I care if he calls or not.

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My ex is blocking me because she still has such strong feelings for me.

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