gizmo1818 Posted July 13, 2014 Posted July 13, 2014 Long story short I met a girl on OLD. We've been on 2 dates now and a hang-out. I tried to kiss her on the second date, but she said not yet and kissed me on the cheek. We had a hangout or I guess a third date this past Thursday. We met up at a concert and we spent 4 hours together and she introduced me to a lot of her friends. Right before I left she told me to let her know when we could go out again and told me a couple days she was free. I text her the next day proposing a date and she basically said she's kind of getting the friend vibe between us right now. This kind of threw me for a loop, but I basically told her I wasn't in it for a new friend and basically told her I wanted to be more than friends or nothing. She then said she didn't want to lead me on if it's feeling more like a friendship for her, but that if we hung out more it could turn into more and that she wants to continue going out. I then told her we could continue dating and see where it goes. She responded with ok, but she wants to pay for herself when we go out. What do you all make of this? I think I made my intentions pretty clear. We haven't really been all that physical since she kind of rejected my kiss on the second date. Do I try and take it to the next level as far as the physical stuff goes this next week or am I friend-zoned?
d0nnivain Posted July 13, 2014 Posted July 13, 2014 She's trying to tell you, nicely, that she doesn't feel romantically interested in you.
Author gizmo1818 Posted July 13, 2014 Author Posted July 13, 2014 She's trying to tell you, nicely, that she doesn't feel romantically interested in you. Well that's what I thought, but after I told her I wasn't interested in just being friends she said she still wanted to hang out. Doesn't that sound like she's on the fence about it still? or not?
bu2002 Posted July 14, 2014 Posted July 14, 2014 She's not sexually attracted to you. She doesn't mind keeping you around as a friend to hang out with, fulfill some emotional needs, and maybe use you so you can be her "date" on certain occasions so she doesn't feel like a third, fifth, or seventh wheel. It's cool. Both of you have been upfront with your intentions. On to the next girl.
Diezel Posted July 14, 2014 Posted July 14, 2014 Eject, buddy. Eject. Next time someone says they get a friend vibe from you, you just say, "That's too bad, I was really interested in you as a romantic prospect, so I have to say I am somewhat disappointed. Good luck." And leave at that. She just wants to waste your time. On to the next one.
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