HopelessRomanticGuy Posted July 13, 2014 Posted July 13, 2014 Hello everyone, I've decided I'm going to take a stand, with God, for one year. I know this may sound silly to many, and it may end up being a waste of time in the end, but when I pray about my ex, I hear God say have patience. I feel he is working on me, teaching me how to remove my ex from the place where only he should be. Whether or not he ends up bringing her back to me, I know that I need to grow and learn how to be a complete person in him. My ex was raised as a Jehovah's Witness, and has respect for the faith she was raised in, but she no longer cares about God. As God works on me, I am praying that he will also work on her, regardless if she comes back to me. I understand that there are many "fish in the sea", but I waited and searched for over two years to find someone I could truly give my heart to, and when I met my ex, I finally felt I could give her my full love. She is the most beautiful, cute, and intelligent women I have every met, and I think she is worth 1 year of my time, while I work on my issues. We had a short but incredible relationship. We never fought and felt completely at peace, and ungraded, around each other. I know that we could be very good together if both of us grow a little and learn to trust again. So, if you are a believer and you were in a relationship with someone you believe is truly special, and would like a second chance, I hope you will join me in prayer.
Moonborn Posted July 13, 2014 Posted July 13, 2014 Hello everyone, I've decided I'm going to take a stand, with God, for one year. I know this may sound silly to many, and it may end up being a waste of time in the end, but when I pray about my ex, I hear God say have patience. I feel he is working on me, teaching me how to remove my ex from the place where only he should be. Whether or not he ends up bringing her back to me, I know that I need to grow and learn how to be a complete person in him. My ex was raised as a Jehovah's Witness, and has respect for the faith she was raised in, but she no longer cares about God. As God works on me, I am praying that he will also work on her, regardless if she comes back to me. I understand that there are many "fish in the sea", but I waited and searched for over two years to find someone I could truly give my heart to, and when I met my ex, I finally felt I could give her my full love. She is the most beautiful, cute, and intelligent women I have every met, and I think she is worth 1 year of my time, while I work on my issues. We had a short but incredible relationship. We never fought and felt completely at peace, and ungraded, around each other. I know that we could be very good together if both of us grow a little and learn to trust again. So, if you are a believer and you were in a relationship with someone you believe is truly special, and would like a second chance, I hope you will join me in prayer. Why exactly did you two break up?
Author HopelessRomanticGuy Posted July 13, 2014 Author Posted July 13, 2014 I think it was too much pressure for her, and I was starting to get jealous over some of her guy friends. It was an LDR relationship (about 3hrs apart) and she is still trying to figure where she wants to move, and what she wants to do with her life after she graduates at the end of summer. Before we broke up she was considering moving to my city. She fell in love with me and the city. But I think it was just too much for her and it was hard for me as well. I'm working on my insecurity and abandonment issues, and I praying for her to realize her mistakes as well. I know she loves me, I treated her so good. We were both very attracted to each other and got along incredibly well. We both have a little growing to do but I am confident, if we both recognize our issues, that we could have a wonderful relationship again. The key being if we are both willing to recognize our issues and work on building trust and mutual respect.
somecamel Posted July 13, 2014 Posted July 13, 2014 Ok, So what were your views on religion before she broke up with you?
Author HopelessRomanticGuy Posted July 13, 2014 Author Posted July 13, 2014 I'm a Christian, though not a very good one
somecamel Posted July 13, 2014 Posted July 13, 2014 I'll say it straight, no pussy footing around. Are you becoming a Jehovahs Witness because she's one and you think this will bring her back to you? 1
loversquarrel Posted July 13, 2014 Posted July 13, 2014 What do you mean by "learn to trust again"??? - That doesn't sound good.
Author HopelessRomanticGuy Posted July 13, 2014 Author Posted July 13, 2014 No, no, no I would never become a Jehovah's Witness. I want her back but I'm not willing to sacrifice my faith to be with her. I do not agree with their views on Christianity, and while my ex has respect for her old faith, she would never go back to being a JW either. As for the trust thing. It was me not trusting her, though she never gave me any reason to not trust her. I was allowing her past, which she was very honest about, to dictate my thoughts. I try to let the past be the past, but it's hard when you know someones past and it isn't pretty.
Moonborn Posted July 13, 2014 Posted July 13, 2014 As for the trust thing. It was me not trusting her, though she never gave me any reason to not trust her. I was allowing her past, which she was very honest about, to dictate my thoughts. I try to let the past be the past, but it's hard when you know someones past and it isn't pretty. And what kind of past are we talking about here if you don't mind me asking?
ConfusedHumanBeing Posted July 13, 2014 Posted July 13, 2014 Hello everyone, I've decided I'm going to take a stand, with God, for one year. I know this may sound silly to many, and it may end up being a waste of time in the end, but when I pray about my ex, I hear God say have patience. I feel he is working on me, teaching me how to remove my ex from the place where only he should be. Whether or not he ends up bringing her back to me, I know that I need to grow and learn how to be a complete person in him. My ex was raised as a Jehovah's Witness, and has respect for the faith she was raised in, but she no longer cares about God. As God works on me, I am praying that he will also work on her, regardless if she comes back to me. I understand that there are many "fish in the sea", but I waited and searched for over two years to find someone I could truly give my heart to, and when I met my ex, I finally felt I could give her my full love. She is the most beautiful, cute, and intelligent women I have every met, and I think she is worth 1 year of my time, while I work on my issues. We had a short but incredible relationship. We never fought and felt completely at peace, and ungraded, around each other. I know that we could be very good together if both of us grow a little and learn to trust again. So, if you are a believer and you were in a relationship with someone you believe is truly special, and would like a second chance, I hope you will join me in prayer. Im going to be blunt....none of that matters unless she feels the same. If she wanted to be with you, she would. Sitting there hoping and praying and all of that jazz is cool, but it doesn't allow you to heal and get over it. You'll feel like this for a LONG time until you come to the conclusion that its fully over and kill the hope, you'll keep feeling like this. It takes time, but accepting it without any "special situations", the better you'll be. 3
Smarty Pants Posted July 13, 2014 Posted July 13, 2014 Praying won't bring her back. God will not bring her back. That's why he created free will. I hope you let go of this soon. The pain will go away as soon as you give up that hope. You may not believe it, but it feels really good to stop worrying about whether your ex will come back. 2
loversquarrel Posted July 13, 2014 Posted July 13, 2014 No, no, no I would never become a Jehovah's Witness. I want her back but I'm not willing to sacrifice my faith to be with her. I do not agree with their views on Christianity, and while my ex has respect for her old faith, she would never go back to being a JW either. As for the trust thing. It was me not trusting her, though she never gave me any reason to not trust her. I was allowing her past, which she was very honest about, to dictate my thoughts. I try to let the past be the past, but it's hard when you know someones past and it isn't pretty. A not so pretty past is often times a strong indicator of future behavior and underlying issues. As they say...be careful what you wish for...
sugarlove Posted July 14, 2014 Posted July 14, 2014 You don't take a stand with God for a second chance. You take a stand for yourself and let God do the work for you. What you want might not be what you need. Believe that He won't take away someone who is good for you and whatever He gives to you now, it's sufficient. He will not let you suffer anymore than you can handle it It's good to have faith but have faith for the right reasons... and that is to grow stronger in your heart, nothing more. 1
todreaminblue Posted July 14, 2014 Posted July 14, 2014 (edited) I am in prayer about a guy I know...so i will join you......not that he will come to me but that he finds happiness and peace,with whoever is right for him, i am not in line with gods all knowing what is right or wrong for him , i know god has given me this connection to him, where i am empathic with him and i cant break it and i have tried......quite a few times to break it......i cant i don't know how to .....so I have to leave it to god , don't know how long this is going to take.but one thing i am is patient so ill just keep praying......god will guide me and hopefully him...and i am moving on.......i am not stagnating with patience ...i am just accepting what happens happens including anyone who comes into my life.....deb Edited July 14, 2014 by todreaminblue
SCJACK Posted July 14, 2014 Posted July 14, 2014 (edited) Yes, God gives free will. But that doesn't mean he can't bring his ex back. It is possible through prayer as God can do anything. But God also wants the best for you, meaning if he doesn't think she is right for you or he has a better plan for you then no, prayer will not bring her back. Maybe ask him to change yourself, and change her in ways that she will know God maybe through you or whatever. But you have to let God move and do his work, don't force anything. If things don't happen the way you want, it's for the better anyways. As for yourself being hurt, if your faith is strong in God then that is all the comfort you need, even with thoughts of the ex. Prayer is a powerful practice... some of you are so narrow minded.. I have been praying for my ex as well everyday, that maybe one day she can get to know God. I am a caring person, that's something important to me, of course God wants nonbelievers to know him too. If you pray enough, could take years, it can happen. So don't go saying praying won't do **** because you'll still be hurt blah blah. Another thing.... don't pray for her to come back, pray that maybe one day she will see you as someone who really did care for her or see you in a different light, by then God would have moved things for you in a better way. Edited July 14, 2014 by SCJACK 1
ConfusedHumanBeing Posted July 14, 2014 Posted July 14, 2014 Yes, God gives free will. But that doesn't mean he can't bring his ex back. It is possible through prayer as God can do anything. But God also wants the best for you, meaning if he doesn't think she is right for you or he has a better plan for you then no, prayer will not bring her back. Maybe ask him to change yourself, and change her in ways that she will know God maybe through you or whatever. But you have to let God move and do his work, don't force anything. If things don't happen the way you want, it's for the better anyways. As for yourself being hurt, if your faith is strong in God then that is all the comfort you need, even with thoughts of the ex. Prayer is a powerful practice... some of you are so narrow minded.. I have been praying for my ex as well everyday, that maybe one day she can get to know God. I am a caring person, that's something important to me, of course God wants nonbelievers to know him too. If you pray enough, could take years, it can happen. So don't go saying praying won't do **** because you'll still be hurt blah blah. Another thing.... don't pray for her to come back, pray that maybe one day she will see you as someone who really did care for her or see you in a different light, by then God would have moved things for you in a better way. Where did anyone say this? 1
David87 Posted July 14, 2014 Posted July 14, 2014 I think you're only doing this because you hope that God will bring her back into your life.... That won't happen my friend. 1
Author HopelessRomanticGuy Posted July 14, 2014 Author Posted July 14, 2014 I understand that God does not take away free will. However, I think the only reason I found god is because of the prayers of my grandmother. I think God moved in my life and allowed situations to happen that pointed me toward him. It was still my choice to believe. I care about my ex as a person, and since she used to know god, I pray for god to move in her life. The God she was taught growing up was a god of shame and guilt, I do not believe that is God. I believe he is love, grace, and forgiveness. Would I love for her to discover that God is love, grace, and forgiveness and then come back to me? Of course!! But even if that doesn't happen, I will still pray for her. I care about her. I care about her well-being. I'm praying for his strength, love, mercy, and grace for my life as well. So I can be complete in him. So that no matter what happens, I can carry on and live a healthy life. As long as I continue working on me, and moving forward with healing, I will give god time to see what happens with her. I'm not interested in anyone else, and if I start to heal, and meet someone who is great, great. But even then, I would continue praying for my ex, because I care about her. 1
SCJACK Posted July 14, 2014 Posted July 14, 2014 Im going to be blunt....none of that matters unless she feels the same. If she wanted to be with you, she would. Sitting there hoping and praying and all of that jazz is cool, but it doesn't allow you to heal and get over it. You'll feel like this for a LONG time until you come to the conclusion that its fully over and kill the hope, you'll keep feeling like this. It takes time, but accepting it without any "special situations", the better you'll be. Sorry if I misinterpreted but these statements lead me to believe that. "none of it matters" praying does matter whether she feels the same or not. but in regards to her wanting to come back probably not. The second bolded statement is like saying praying won't help with anything or heal you but it is also a form of meditating which can provide comfort. That said... anyone can hope.... Hope and praying about it should not be correlated. if they were then that means praying would prolong your hurt, and that's not the purpose of prayer..
ConfusedHumanBeing Posted July 15, 2014 Posted July 15, 2014 Sorry if I misinterpreted but these statements lead me to believe that. "none of it matters" praying does matter whether she feels the same or not. but in regards to her wanting to come back probably not. The second bolded statement is like saying praying won't help with anything or heal you but it is also a form of meditating which can provide comfort. That said... anyone can hope.... Hope and praying about it should not be correlated. if they were then that means praying would prolong your hurt, and that's not the purpose of prayer.. Not what I was saying. This is why I dont like mixing religion with relationships.
redbaron005 Posted July 15, 2014 Posted July 15, 2014 It is often said that God will never challenge you beyond what you can handle. It's important to keep in mind though that the closer you become with God, the more you can handle, so expect greater and wider challenges in your journey. 1
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