ponchsox Posted July 13, 2014 Posted July 13, 2014 (edited) I've only been on two dates with this girl. We kissed after the first date and French kissed after the second date. We have pretty intense chemistry already. She told me at dinner that she wants to take it slow. I actually respect her for this. Perhaps she wants to get to know me without hopping in the sack right away? Ladies, what does this mean to you when you would say this? Edited July 13, 2014 by ponchsox
bene Posted July 13, 2014 Posted July 13, 2014 To me taking things slow means keep dating and letting things progress naturally. This means not jumping into bed in the first date, not putting a label on things and making future plans too soon. All in all, not rushing things and jumping to next milestones too soon. If you like her just keep dating and let it flow naturally.
d0nnivain Posted July 13, 2014 Posted July 13, 2014 At a minimum it means no sex. It could also mean that she doesn't want to define anything just yet.
GemmaUK Posted July 13, 2014 Posted July 13, 2014 I have said that as a reaction to men who were trying to rush things. 1
Daisy-oliviaWentcher Posted July 13, 2014 Posted July 13, 2014 Keeping it slow means keeping it slow. It's quite a good sign in my books. If someone is wanting at a natural progressive rate rather than climbing under the sheets immediately, usually indicates self respect. I prefer getting to know someone slowly, i want to KNOW who they are first before I take off my bra & panties.
carhill Posted July 13, 2014 Posted July 13, 2014 What does "let's take it slow" mean to you TBH, I've never heard this from a woman because it's my natural style; however, when I've said it, it was in the context of 'I admire and respect you and want to take my time to get to know you better and build our intimacy'.
writergal Posted July 13, 2014 Posted July 13, 2014 Relationships are built on communication. "Let's take it slow" could mean anything based on what the other person wants from you. Your best bet is to just flat out ask her what she means. She may not want to be serious, or may not want to see you that often. You won't know unless you ask her to clarify what she wants from you.
Author ponchsox Posted July 13, 2014 Author Posted July 13, 2014 (edited) Relationships are built on communication. "Let's take it slow" could mean anything based on what the other person wants from you. Your best bet is to just flat out ask her what she means. She may not want to be serious, or may not want to see you that often. You won't know unless you ask her to clarify what she wants from you. I'm going to ask her because she told me she wants to take it slow yet after we ended up French kissing and touching for 15 minutes. Granted I made the move, but she really got into it. We could have gone to my room after (I was staying in a hotel that she works at and she got me a discounted room since I lived over an hour away) but she declined and I respected her for it. It's one of those situations where you want to show someone you're really into them and be affectionate without ending in up in bed just yet. Edited July 13, 2014 by ponchsox
Author ponchsox Posted July 13, 2014 Author Posted July 13, 2014 I have said that as a reaction to men who were trying to rush things. Define "rushing" things? Did you want to get to know them enough to tell them to slow down? Where they being overly physical, or wanted to see you too soon?
d0nnivain Posted July 13, 2014 Posted July 13, 2014 In her case it also means stop acting like my parent & trying to keep tabs on me. I am not saying you are doing this but she thinks you are. Her perception of your interest in her life is her reality -- you want more info then she is wiling to give & she feels pressured.
Targetlock Posted July 13, 2014 Posted July 13, 2014 being cautious and doesn't want to rush and ruin what could be a good thing.
Potz4prez Posted July 13, 2014 Posted July 13, 2014 She's unsure about you and thinks you're coming on too strong.
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