alexwood Posted July 13, 2014 Posted July 13, 2014 Been on a few dates with this girl. We text each other and today I asked where she was going to dinner with her friend at tonight She asked if I ask so many questions to keep the conversation going and I said no Iwwasccurious.. She said.. Lol you ask about my whereabouts more than my parents. I don't mean to.. Maybe I do it to keep the conversation going I don't know Am I losing her? She did put lol
d0nnivain Posted July 13, 2014 Posted July 13, 2014 You may be but you can u-turn. Stop asking about her locations & start asking her on dates.
Author alexwood Posted July 13, 2014 Author Posted July 13, 2014 You may be but you can u-turn. Stop asking about her locations & start asking her on dates. Been on two dates
lightning5511 Posted July 13, 2014 Posted July 13, 2014 If you've only been on 2 dates then its really none of your business what she's doing when she's not with you. Assuming she didn't seem too mad about it my guess would be everything's fine and you should just avoid the topic for now.
Author alexwood Posted July 13, 2014 Author Posted July 13, 2014 If you've only been on 2 dates then its really none of your business what she's doing when she's not with you. Assuming she didn't seem too mad about it my guess would be everything's fine and you should just avoid the topic for now. I wasn't asking who she is with.. She mentioned last night she was going to dinner and I just asked where She also has a full time job and three part time jobs.. When she says she is going to work I'll ask what Job.. Is it that big of a deal?
lightning5511 Posted July 13, 2014 Posted July 13, 2014 Personally no but its possible that to her it is. Or at least something that she didn't want to talk to you about at that time for whatever reason. Next time you talk to her see how it goes but i'm guessing she wasn't really mad. It was just her way of moving away from a subject she didn't want to talk about.
Author alexwood Posted July 13, 2014 Author Posted July 13, 2014 Personally no but its possible that to her it is. Or at least something that she didn't want to talk to you about at that time for whatever reason. Next time you talk to her see how it goes but i'm guessing she wasn't really mad. It was just her way of moving away from a subject she didn't want to talk about. I don't even ask a lot of questions I think.. Just kinda annoyed me that she said that Should I take it as a bad thing
d0nnivain Posted July 13, 2014 Posted July 13, 2014 What you asked was a perfectly normal Q. However, she took offense to it, right or wrong. If you don't want to annoy her stop asking her where she's going.
Versacehottie Posted July 13, 2014 Posted July 13, 2014 do you think it's possible that she was joking or friendly banter? idk, it could be harmless. Actually depending on how you were asking where she was going, i think it's totally normal. The way i see it, it's just showing interest in someone's life. Just a way to keep conversation flowing. Also if you're into restaurants and going out, it's a completely legit question. Maybe joke back with her about it and then if she's seriously annoyed then she'll let you know. If you weren't being too clingy or pushy and she was truly annoyed by this, I'd have reservations about her, tbh.
JungleLover Posted July 13, 2014 Posted July 13, 2014 Well, you certainly don't want her comparing you to her parents. You may be talking too much.
isisisweeping Posted July 13, 2014 Posted July 13, 2014 She clearly feels like you're checking up on her. I get asking questions to get to know but if it's incessant I could see how it would feel like you were possibly insecure/jealous/whatever. She doesn't want to update wherever she is. Some people are more sensitive to that then others. (For me, it depends on my impression of why they're asking me (ie, to get to know me or because they think I'm doing something wrong) I don't think she's angry. I think she put it like that to just try to let you know she'd like you to scale it back for now without making it a big discussion because it's still a new relationship.
ponchsox Posted July 13, 2014 Posted July 13, 2014 You're being way too clingy after two dates. Big turn off. Give her some breathing room.
Author alexwood Posted July 14, 2014 Author Posted July 14, 2014 i tod her.. "ooh i didnt realzie my bad" she said "hahhaha its ok, just never had nayone care about what i was doing i guess" we have been texting since then... do you think its all ok?
johnsonracer Posted July 14, 2014 Posted July 14, 2014 i tod her.. "ooh i didnt realzie my bad" she said "hahhaha its ok, just never had nayone care about what i was doing i guess" we have been texting since then... do you think its all ok? your fine..just lay off asking her stuff like that
JungleLover Posted July 14, 2014 Posted July 14, 2014 i tod her.. "ooh i didnt realzie my bad" she said "hahhaha its ok, just never had nayone care about what i was doing i guess" we have been texting since then... do you think its all ok? Resist seeking feedback for your every single move. It breeds insecurity and indecisiveness. I think it is okay. 1
Author alexwood Posted July 14, 2014 Author Posted July 14, 2014 Resist seeking feedback for your every single move. It breeds insecurity and indecisiveness. I think it is okay. i didnt ask her for feedbakc
Mrin Posted July 14, 2014 Posted July 14, 2014 A better move would have been to ask the cuisine they're having. Expresses interest. Keeps the conversation alive. Doesn't sound stalkerish.
loppydoppy Posted July 14, 2014 Posted July 14, 2014 anyone else think im ok? your fine especially if shes still talking to you
JungleLover Posted July 14, 2014 Posted July 14, 2014 i didnt ask her for feedbakc I meant asking for feedback here. Don't get me wrong, I am happy to help you but I don't want you to get to the point that you're ducking into bathrooms during dates to make a post asking if you should kiss your date or not. Confidence is partially built from being comfortable with the decisions and actions you take. Sometimes you need feedback to make sure you are not of the wall but be comfortable with who you are and your date will also. You will screw up while dating. We all screw up.
Author alexwood Posted July 14, 2014 Author Posted July 14, 2014 I meant asking for feedback here. Don't get me wrong, I am happy to help you but I don't want you to get to the point that you're ducking into bathrooms during dates to make a post asking if you should kiss your date or not. Confidence is partially built from being comfortable with the decisions and actions you take. Sometimes you need feedback to make sure you are not of the wall but be comfortable with who you are and your date will also. You will screw up while dating. We all screw up. i understand..i was just a bit worried
johnsonracer Posted July 14, 2014 Posted July 14, 2014 i understand..i was just a bit worried if she hasnt talked since id be worried, but if she has no biggie
Author alexwood Posted July 14, 2014 Author Posted July 14, 2014 if she hasnt talked since id be worried, but if she has no biggie ok thanks man
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