spinaroonie Posted July 13, 2014 Posted July 13, 2014 When messaging girls explicitly about what they're looking for on online dating sites, I've had many girls tell me they just got out of a relationship and aren't looking for anything serious. To me, this is woman-speak for "given that you are sufficiently attractive, charming and don't say anything creepy, I may sleep with you to get over my ex." Say you meet a guy from OKCupid. He's not exactly your type. In fact, he looks nothing like the guys you've slept with in the past. You probably wouldn't want to introduce him to your friends because he's not exactly your type. You wouldn't even want him as a BF. But you kinda love the fact that he looks nothing like your ex. In fact he's the complete opposite in every way. He meets you at a dimly-lit bar where the convo and drinks are flowing. You're mildly disappointed to discover he's a bit shorter and not as good looking as the guys you've dated in the past. Yet he's charming, witty, fun, masculine and you genuinely enjoy his company. You're feeling buzzed and a little horny from the alcohol. And it's been a while since you've had sex. Plus you're still trying to get over your ex. A little rebound sex with a one-off stranger could help ease the pain. Ladies, have you ever been in such a situation before? What makes you decide whether to sleep with a guy?
Gaeta Posted July 13, 2014 Posted July 13, 2014 When messaging girls explicitly about what they're looking for on online dating sites, I've had many girls tell me they just got out of a relationship and aren't looking for anything serious. To me, this is woman-speak for "given that you are sufficiently attractive, charming and don't say anything creepy, I may sleep with you to get over my ex." Say you meet a guy from OKCupid. He's not exactly your type. In fact, he looks nothing like the guys you've slept with in the past. You probably wouldn't want to introduce him to your friends because he's not exactly your type. You wouldn't even want him as a BF. But you kinda love the fact that he looks nothing like your ex. In fact he's the complete opposite in every way. He meets you at a dimly-lit bar where the convo and drinks are flowing. You're mildly disappointed to discover he's a bit shorter and not as good looking as the guys you've dated in the past. Yet he's charming, witty, fun, masculine and you genuinely enjoy his company. You're feeling buzzed and a little horny from the alcohol. And it's been a while since you've had sex. Plus you're still trying to get over your ex. A little rebound sex with a one-off stranger could help ease the pain. Ladies, have you ever been in such a situation before? What makes you decide whether to sleep with a guy? What novel have you been reading? It happened only once I slept with a man on a first date. The sexual tension in the air was so freaking strong, it was mind blowing, the guy was so so hot! I didn't care if there was a tomorrow with him. It was basic instinct ruling the show. What you're describing in your thread is what we call a mercy-fack. The guy is there, he's not too attractive, but sex doesn't come by often for that woman so she says why not. No I don't do that.
sugarlove Posted July 13, 2014 Posted July 13, 2014 First date? That's a no-no, mercy or not. If I do want some rebound sex, I wouldn't even go for a guy I barely know, I'll probably ask a good mate who is hot, single and won't ask me for my name again in the morning.
phineas Posted July 13, 2014 Posted July 13, 2014 My whole online dating history has been the women are super attracted to me & sleep with me on the first date or they want nothing to do with me, bail early & I never hear from them again LOL! it's so completely polarized and I don't know why. The women I did sleep with, they either disappeared for a few months then hit me up when they wanted to hook up again or they came back a few times knowing it was just fun then tried to sex me into a relationship which never works on me.
d0nnivain Posted July 13, 2014 Posted July 13, 2014 1st date sex is all about chemistry / lust usually fueled with a bit of alcohol. There's not much you can do. The spark is either there or its' not.
somedude81 Posted July 13, 2014 Posted July 13, 2014 So first date sex only happens if the guy is really hot.
soccerrprp Posted July 13, 2014 Posted July 13, 2014 1st date sex is all about chemistry / lust usually fueled with a bit of alcohol. There's not much you can do. The spark is either there or its' not. This is true. I've dated a couple of women with whom I was intimate on the first date, but a lot of CHEMISTRY was happening. None involved alcohol as I don't believe in going on dates with alcohol involved if there is driving involved for the lady. Most of the women I've dated have been late 30s early 40s, so more mature, more in tune with their sexuality/body and better understand their own wants/needs. I've dated some great, mature women.
phineas Posted July 13, 2014 Posted July 13, 2014 So first date sex only happens if the guy is really hot. YES! i'm a hottie! This is true. I've dated a couple of women with whom I was intimate on the first date, but a lot of CHEMISTRY was happening. None involved alcohol as I don't believe in going on dates with alcohol involved if there is driving involved for the lady. Most of the women I've dated have been late 30s early 40s, so more mature, more in tune with their sexuality/body and better understand their own wants/needs. I've dated some great, mature women. Same here. Nobody was drunk & I never went in looking to have sex on the first date. They just couldn't keep their hands off me in the bar & to be honest, had I not tried to have sex with them it's a sure bet they would of thought I didn't like them & I would of never seen them again.
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