aprilisi Posted July 13, 2014 Posted July 13, 2014 I was on a date of all things. He hugged me and we talked for a minute. I had to get away fast. We were at a movie theater he was with some co workers. I could feel his eyes on me the whole time. No matter how much I tell myself I'm over him my body just won't listen. The shock of energy I felt just flustered the hell out of me. I know he doesn't feel it cause if he did he wouldn't have pulled the slow fade. I hate that he still does this to me. Couldn't enjoy my date, he's a perfectly nice guy. But I couldn't stop thinking about the ex. No question here really. I'm just going through all these emotions. Feeling like I did after 5 weeks of NC. Can't sleep and can't stop thinking about it.
sugarlove Posted July 13, 2014 Posted July 13, 2014 I was on a date of all things. He hugged me and we talked for a minute. I had to get away fast. We were at a movie theater he was with some co workers. I could feel his eyes on me the whole time. No matter how much I tell myself I'm over him my body just won't listen. The shock of energy I felt just flustered the hell out of me. I know he doesn't feel it cause if he did he wouldn't have pulled the slow fade. I hate that he still does this to me. Couldn't enjoy my date, he's a perfectly nice guy. But I couldn't stop thinking about the ex. No question here really. I'm just going through all these emotions. Feeling like I did after 5 weeks of NC. Can't sleep and can't stop thinking about it. Oh you poor thing. Today I went to the hairdresser. And as my ex and I used to go to the same places all the time, and that's where I always get my hair done. I was breathing heavily the closer I get to the place, hands clammy and eyes darting about. Wondering if he's just around the corner, if he has some girl with him. I can't imagine how you must have felt. If it's any consolation, he must have felt the same as well. Wondering who is this guy with you, if you've moved on..
bene Posted July 13, 2014 Posted July 13, 2014 It's not really advice but I recently went through the same thing and it hurts even if this person is not constantly on your mind anymore. I hadn't seen the guy who pulled a slow fade on me almost a year. And then in one weekend I saw him holding hands with a new girl in an event. I was that girl a year ago and it's strange that the setting is the same but the girl is different. It really brought me down even though I understand that it is irrational because there's no reason to believe or expect that he hasn't moved on and even I myself have dated another guy meanwhile. But it just hurts. I think you can't look at a person to whom you were once emotionally connected and feel absolutely nothing. Some memories will always be there, even if you don't necessarily want them back or don't think that they treated you very nicely. Eventually this too shall pass. You managed NC and moving along with your life for the first time, you can do it again now when the pain is not as accute as after the break up. 1
Eternal Sunshine Posted July 13, 2014 Posted July 13, 2014 Move to a new city and start your life over
ffw Posted July 13, 2014 Posted July 13, 2014 Keep maintaining NC. Time is a great healer. Move to a new city and start your life over Not sure, about moving to another place. It may/may not work, but for how long a person will run.
d0nnivain Posted July 13, 2014 Posted July 13, 2014 It's the initial shock of seeing him. The hug probably didn't help because it sent all sorts of sense memories flooding back. Use some logical & positive self talk to work yourself through it. Hopefully it will be a shorter recovery period then after the initial break-up. You don't have to move. Just try to avoid places you used to go together.
Author aprilisi Posted July 13, 2014 Author Posted July 13, 2014 New day, feel a bit better. I'm not moving, he actually lives over 70 miles away. For some reason he and his co workers decided to come to my town to take the boarding school kids to a movie. He's originally from my town but we run in different circles. Just the odds of running into him.
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