PogoStick Posted July 13, 2014 Posted July 13, 2014 Neil Young says it's better to burn out than to fade away. Which would you rather experience? A shorter time with a man on top of the world, say a world class athlete or a CEO of global company, or whoever is your prince charming, for a 2 to 5 years. Not only is he successful but he's a great father and companion. or An extended time with an adequate, everyday kind of guy, your middle class, family man, for 10 to 20 years. He gets the job done but he's not the guy they write stories about. Please explain your reasoning.
daisydook Posted July 13, 2014 Posted July 13, 2014 Extended time with an average dude! I'm a routine kind of girl and not much one for change. Hahaha I like the idea of one person I can really get used to.
sugarlove Posted July 13, 2014 Posted July 13, 2014 I"ll go for the high achiever only because I am one myself. My last guy was the everyday kind of guy, but he doesn't have any ambition or drive. I begin to seriously feel bored and just want to smack him in his head like my mom. On a serious note, I no longer believe in happily ever after.. so I rather have a short, intense fantastic fling with someone who is a great conversationalist, inspire me, challenge me and a great father on top of it. Then someone who is going to make me wonder if that is all there is to this life. 1
Author PogoStick Posted July 13, 2014 Author Posted July 13, 2014 That's interesting, two very different takes. It would be tempting to experience life at it's very best. Say you get 3 good years with someone and then they die in an accident. But then you have to live knowing that life may never be that good again. Then again, maybe old age is like that no matter what so we should live to the max while we can.
Ruby Slippers Posted July 13, 2014 Posted July 13, 2014 I'd prefer the family man who sticks around. I want a family, and a good dad and husband who is loving, loyal, and reliable is essential to that.
Blade96 Posted July 13, 2014 Posted July 13, 2014 Whichever one is the much nicer person and better companion. It could be the first guy - or the second. If he is a great person great companion, has eyes only foryou ....stays in contact....wants to take care of you (and you him) that's the guy you go for.
Allumere Posted July 13, 2014 Posted July 13, 2014 Then again, maybe old age is like that no matter what so we should live to the max while we can. Might as well dig the hole now then. DISAGREE.
sugarlove Posted July 13, 2014 Posted July 13, 2014 I'll get the shovel. I think age has a lot to do with it as well in relation to your question. And everyone is at different phase in their lives going through different type of hardship and relationship obstacles. I'm quite jaded in my thinking. Due to an abusive marriage and everything else that came after that. I only believe in sticking for myself and depending my happiness on myself. I also know that a nice guy doesn't mean one that is faithful (last ex) and a high achiever doesn't mean he is a great dad (ex husband). If you ask me, based on what it takes to get me where I am now, I don't think I can ever settle for mediocrity. But who knows, maybe 10 more years or so, I might. It's hard to say and age/maturity certainly plays a part. 2
Author PogoStick Posted July 14, 2014 Author Posted July 14, 2014 Might as well dig the hole now then. DISAGREE. But you could walk out of your house tomorrow and be killed by a sharknado. Or like my dad, dying 20-30 years too soon from cancer. That's why sometimes I lean towards living in the moment.
No Limit Posted July 14, 2014 Posted July 14, 2014 I'd say the world class guy, because I'm probably becoming one too (well, except for the "guy" part of course ). As mentioned already, the everyday guy doesn't have drive or ambition for anything that exceeds football, soccer or a pretty garden. Me? I'm already starting to travel the world when I have holidays, I want to see and learn new things. Even within my friend group I was already described as "the multicultural type", and no relationship in the world could keep me from this mentality. I actually feel a little pity for the people within my living area who are to their necks in debt just to buy a little house, one among many. As a result they don't travel a lot, and most certainly don't fly anywhere. Like I said, if that's enough for them, cool. But not for me. I'd go easy on this if I ever have children of course, but then within a few years I'd show the world to them as well. 1
Emilia Posted July 14, 2014 Posted July 14, 2014 A shorter time with a man on top of the world, say a world class athlete or a CEO of global company, or whoever is your prince charming, for a 2 to 5 years. Not only is he successful but he's a great father and companion. If he is a great father and companion, how can he stick around for only 2 to 5 years? That doesn't make him either.
sugarlove Posted July 14, 2014 Posted July 14, 2014 It's not the quantity but the quality, love. I rather have something short but worthwhile, leaves me an everlasting ambition to dream, create, explore.... because such men inspire.. instead of settling for someone who just sticks around and doesn't push me to excel myself and makes me wonder if this is life... an mere existence. Of course, every woman is different. But I've always been one to inspire, and if my daughters find someone they love in the future, i wish for them to be inspired and challenged.
Giggle Posted July 14, 2014 Posted July 14, 2014 I'm with sugarlove. I've done the mediocre thing. My mom died suddenly lastyear too soon and it hit home to not settle. Not to say that I want someone on top of the world, I want an intense connection. I do not want the ..well I just really don't want to be alone kind of relationship. My dad remarried.. He said she followed him home and he couldn't figure out how to get her to go away. Plus he was lonely and she had a family ranch which is his ultimate dream. But they don't even live together, she bitches.. He drinks. My friend.. Is comfortable in her marriage, but she doesn't think much of him and she's a bitch to him.
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