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been talking to this girl for a few weeks now. went on a date and had a great time. she said shes gonna plan our second date and pay for everything.

 

the girl has three jobs so she is a hard worker

 

today i was textign her about work and how i was trying to clean something

 

she said she would show me how its done

 

i said..wel come here then and she said princesses dont work

 

i said "oh so your prince provides for you"

 

she then said "the idea of a guy providing everything for me is a joke, i can take care of myself"

 

i told her i know and she seemed to understand i was kidding

 

then tonight i told her i was making dinner and she said wish i coud have some..i told her, yea maybe ill bring it up(she lives an hour away)....she said ha well i get off at 9 ..i said hmmmm....she said hmmm what

 

i said..well lets just see how much is left

 

then she said..it would be kind of a waste to come up here just for that

 

i told her yeah i know, but you know you would love it

 

 

did i come off as clingy or weak?

 

i wasnt going to drive the hour, i was just playing

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Dear loppydoppy

 

From the sounds of things you don't have anything to worry about. I doubt that she will really remember this conversation since she has 3 jobs.

You did alright so don't stress about it, it's nothing. Being that she is fiercely independent from any male assistance you will have to figure out were you can fit into her world and how you can contribute to her plans.

 

From the sounds of things she is going places and the sooner you are up to speed the better of you will be. Although it's nice that she is planning your second date and is paying for everything make sure that the one after that will be your plan and your shout. The sooner that you are able to establish balance in the relationship the better of it will be in the long run. If it's too heavily reliant on one partner than this can cause unecessary friction in the future.

 

All the best - Bud.

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I personally don't like games like that. Telling someone you'll do something but you were "just kidding". Just not funny IMO. I don't see where you screwed up though, relax.

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She's really sarcastic so I thought she would understand i was joking

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It sounded flirty / fine to me. I think you could have even brought her the food.

 

Where do you see clingy / weak in there?

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It sounded flirty / fine to me. I think you could have even brought her the food.

 

Where do you see clingy / weak in there?

 

 

because she was ike..it would be pointless to drive al that way to bring me food

 

so i though maybe she thought i sounded desperate

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No. She just didn't want you making that kind of grand gesture at this early stage.

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No. She just didn't want you making that kind of grand gesture at this early stage.

 

 

yeah man dont worry about it

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