Jhayward Posted July 12, 2014 Posted July 12, 2014 Okay, so I got a new job a month ago, and have become quite fond of this girl working there. Trouble is, the only time I get to see her if when we are at work together, which is only a few days a week, and due to the busy environment there is not much time for chatting. To make things worse, she is leaving for a new job in a few weeks. I like her and we get along well, and due to the limited time left I want to make something of this, however I don't want to be too forward as I haven't known her that long. We rarely finish at the same time either so asking to do something after work is difficult. Some advice would be much appreciated!
smackie9 Posted July 12, 2014 Posted July 12, 2014 Yes you need to be forward. Confidence gets the girl and the only way to get things going is to ask her out on a date. That is why you go out on dates, to get to know one another, and it's better to do that outside of work. That is just how it's done. If you do the FB chat crap for months while you muster up the courage, you will get friend zoned. Be bold, be forward, ask her out. What if she says no? that just proves she never had any interest to begin with, and you will have to same results even if you take your time.
Author Jhayward Posted July 12, 2014 Author Posted July 12, 2014 Thanks for the advice, I get what you're saying. I just feel I need to spend a little more time before I do anything too forward, it's still early days if you get my meaning. Plus I've never been very good at asking people out, we work in a coffee shop so asking her out for coffee seems a bit redundant.
smackie9 Posted July 12, 2014 Posted July 12, 2014 Thanks for the advice, I get what you're saying. I just feel I need to spend a little more time before I do anything too forward, it's still early days if you get my meaning. Plus I've never been very good at asking people out, we work in a coffee shop so asking her out for coffee seems a bit redundant. You do not need more time, all you are doing is procrastinating from your lack of confidence. I didn't hang out with my husband when we first met, he asked me out on a date. You have no excuses. Grow a set and ask her if she would like to grab a bite to eat after her shift.
FitChick Posted July 12, 2014 Posted July 12, 2014 Try to talk to her more often and mention you're sorry she's leaving as you'd like to get to know her better. If there is not much of a response, you could either give up or revisit the idea in a few days by being more overt and asking her out. If she refuses, you at least know that you tried, you got some practice asking a girl out and it didn't kill you. She will be leaving anyway so you won't have to be around her if it's awkward. Does anyone know if she has a boyfriend?
Author Jhayward Posted July 13, 2014 Author Posted July 13, 2014 I don't think she does, there's nothing on any social media and she's never mentioned it. I'll take your advice though, and good point, if it does go sour she won't be around. Thanks
d0nnivain Posted July 13, 2014 Posted July 13, 2014 Thanks for the advice, I get what you're saying. I just feel I need to spend a little more time before I do anything too forward, it's still early days if you get my meaning. Plus I've never been very good at asking people out, we work in a coffee shop so asking her out for coffee seems a bit redundant. You are wrong. People ask each other out within hours of meeting at a bar. You have already spent way more time than that interacting. If you continue to wait, you will miss your chance. In a restaurant environment there is always a way to flirt on duty. It's not a stuffy office. Brush by her. Reach around her. Help her bus one of her tables. Mention to her that you'd like to talk when your shift is over. Ask her to a movie since out for coffee seems redundant. 1
smackie9 Posted July 13, 2014 Posted July 13, 2014 You will miss your chance. There could be someone else that is plotting to ask her out before she leaves.....grow a set and ask her out, my god she is just a girl.
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