Lipitor11 Posted July 12, 2014 Posted July 12, 2014 I went on a date with a 40 year old guy and he told me he likes "Avril Lavigne." I was like . For some strange reason, guys wearing flip-flops, scandals have always turned me off. Guys who claimed they are funny, when they are not. 1
Mike B. Posted July 12, 2014 Posted July 12, 2014 You sound like a tough date. You were turned off by the fact that he liked a particular singer? I am curious about you choosing to have a username of a cholesterol lowering medicine. 5
Author Lipitor11 Posted July 12, 2014 Author Posted July 12, 2014 You sound like a tough date. You were turned off by the fact that he liked a particular singer? I am curious about you choosing to have a username of a cholesterol lowering medicine. Everyone has pet peeves/turn-offs on a first date, and I'm posting a general question about it-maybe I should have directed this question to WOMEN only. I figured some guy will post some smart-ass answer. Read the question. And why are you attacking me???? Rude.
FitnessRN Posted July 12, 2014 Posted July 12, 2014 -Bringing up ex -complaining about life, work -telling someone you want kids (RUN) -telling someone you like rushing things -telling someone you like the same things as them (when you actually dont and they figure it out) -Too Much Information ("I did these drugs, I had a one night stand) -Living in the past -bringing the phone out and texting -calling somebody "boo" after the first or second date -someone nit picks your ideas 1
notserene Posted July 12, 2014 Posted July 12, 2014 Being rude or arrogant to the server. That's the classic red flag. That person is showing you who they really are...not the "best behavior" version of themselves that people typically are early in a relationship. Talking about the ex incessantly. You should never mention an ex on a first date. If you're divorced and have kids with someone else you should have let people know before you actually set up a date with them. I actually never cared if a guy liked music that I didn't like. I wouldn't date someone just because they had the same taste in music...it seems like that would be a shallow thing to base a relationship on.
Gaeta Posted July 12, 2014 Posted July 12, 2014 I went on a lunch date once and after the meal the guy had a drink of water and gargled his mouth right there in front of me, then swallowed it. After took his napkin and started wiping his teeth. I don't even wanna think about it! 3
sugarlove Posted July 12, 2014 Posted July 12, 2014 He called everything "Lame". I think it was a habit because I told him I had to visit my gran at the hospital which he just said "Lame." like the 10th time or so throughout the date. What is "lame"? Isn't that a slang you used in high school and not by a 30 year old man? 1
rocketman122 Posted July 12, 2014 Posted July 12, 2014 He called everything "Lame". I think it was a habit because I told him I had to visit my gran at the hospital which he just said "Lame." like the 10th time or so throughout the date. What is "lame"? Isn't that a slang you used in high school and not by a 30 year old man? yea thats lame..oh crap im 42, cant use it. 4
Mike B. Posted July 12, 2014 Posted July 12, 2014 Everyone has pet peeves/turn-offs on a first date, and I'm posting a general question about it-maybe I should have directed this question to WOMEN only. I figured some guy will post some smart-ass answer. Read the question. And why are you attacking me???? Rude. I just think it is juvenile and goes beyond pet peeves such as "should have directed this question to WOMEN only" response. And this "I figured some guy will post some smart-ass answer." This is what this guy was up against. Tough date. 1
sugarlove Posted July 12, 2014 Posted July 12, 2014 yea thats lame..oh crap im 42, cant use it. Haha sorry, I put that down to assuming we'll have issues communicating in the future. A justifiable turn-off. Or maybe there is simply no attraction on my end.
ain5053 Posted July 12, 2014 Posted July 12, 2014 Texting/looking at his phone while I am right next to him... Not looking me in the eyes while I talk. And when he doesn't ask me any questions about myself. 1
GemmaUK Posted July 12, 2014 Posted July 12, 2014 I'm 45 and I like Avril Levigne too..what is his number? I dated a guy who was a year younger than me and he liked The Pointer Sisters, Garth Brooks and Tina Turner....I wish I had known this beforehand! My worst 'put off ' for a first date was when we were talking about shops..(he needed a shop to get cigarettes) and the guy then out of the blue said he was 'rampant and liked lots of sex'. He was about 5 stone heavier than in his OLD pics and he had already pushed a load of conspiracy theories on me by this time. I was only there to be polite by this time. I didn't bother being polite for much longer. His parting question was 'can I come back to yours for sex then?' after I had said I didn't think we were a good match. Ewwwwwwwww! 1
Versacehottie Posted July 12, 2014 Posted July 12, 2014 i hate when guys wear scandals too!!!! *just kidding and avril yuck! Tho to be fair there are much more important things to suss out first.
Elle1975 Posted July 12, 2014 Posted July 12, 2014 Turn offs.. If I can smell cowardice, it's a huge turn off. Unhealthy looking, same. Meaning if I can tell you live on take outs and junk food. You talk to me about your ex. Arrogance and/or overly sarcastic You ask me to get rid of my dog You're cheap 1
Mo_Do Posted July 12, 2014 Posted July 12, 2014 - Doesn't shut up - Talks about ex's - Talks about ex's parents - Talks about wanting kids - Talks about marriage - Talks about stuff that bores me - General inability to get into a good conversation groove
SammySammy Posted July 12, 2014 Posted July 12, 2014 Any sort of rudeness. Being rude to a waiter or any other person. Any sort of disrespect or being inconsiderate. Being late or not calling to let me know you're going to be late. Incessantly using cell phone. Not being well groomed. I expect women to be well put together. Not overly made up, but at least look like you spent some time on your appearance. Lying or exaggerating. I don't want to be with somebody that feels the need to overcompensate on the first date. Just be honest and modest. 2
smackie9 Posted July 12, 2014 Posted July 12, 2014 I think the number one turn off is them having a cel phone addiction. If I were on a date, all cel phones are off, including mine. If their social life only consists of FB,tweets and snapshots, I'm out. 1
somedude81 Posted July 12, 2014 Posted July 12, 2014 Using her phone. Mentioning an ex. Getting upset if I look at her boobs
Potz4prez Posted July 12, 2014 Posted July 12, 2014 Everyone has pet peeves/turn-offs on a first date, and I'm posting a general question about it-maybe I should have directed this question to WOMEN only. I figured some guy will post some smart-ass answer. Read the question. And why are you attacking me???? Rude. Oh the man hate.
katinlc Posted July 12, 2014 Posted July 12, 2014 I pretty much always have my cellphone with me and text a ton, but even I know how rude this is on a date, especially a first date. The only time I will answer a text is if it is from my mom because she always worries since I do OLD and am meeting strangers. I always explain to my date who it is and why I'm texting and apologize and then we have a laugh about overprotective parents. My rule is if you feel you need to text someone or take a call while on a date, it is reasonable to provide an apology and explanation. 2
michellew Posted July 12, 2014 Posted July 12, 2014 I went on a date once with a guy who was wearing flip-flops...it wasn't so bad until he took them off while we were sitting at the bar in a nice restaurant!!! It only got worse after that...he talked with his mouth full, stepped out to smoke (I don't date smokers), and then had the audacity to try and kiss me at the end of what I felt was a HORRIBLE date! 1
smackie9 Posted July 12, 2014 Posted July 12, 2014 I agree it is for your safety and you do explain your use of your phone, but from what guys tell me, their date is just being rude and can't put that damn phone down. I work with young guys that are busy with dating, and that is their number one complaint..... Me being much older (50), there is no excuses to be texting through a date.
smackie9 Posted July 12, 2014 Posted July 12, 2014 would you prefer the opposite of cowardice? overaggression? Hmmmmm did she hit a sore spot there burgereater? 1
Smilecharmer Posted July 12, 2014 Posted July 12, 2014 I'm 45 and I like Avril Levigne too..what is his number? I dated a guy who was a year younger than me and he liked The Pointer Sisters, Garth Brooks and Tina Turner....I wish I had known this beforehand! My worst 'put off ' for a first date was when we were talking about shops..(he needed a shop to get cigarettes) and the guy then out of the blue said he was 'rampant and liked lots of sex'. He was about 5 stone heavier than in his OLD pics and he had already pushed a load of conspiracy theories on me by this time. I was only there to be polite by this time. I didn't bother being polite for much longer. His parting question was 'can I come back to yours for sex then?' after I had said I didn't think we were a good match. Ewwwwwwwww! :lmao: I am dying here....can I come back for sex assuming you aren't really a secret agent trying to steal my brain...
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