Monm82 Posted July 12, 2014 Posted July 12, 2014 How often does this happen? Possibly more common with guys?
notserene Posted July 12, 2014 Posted July 12, 2014 People are frequently attracted to people who are attracted to them. I think that there are actually studies of this somewhere. 1
preraph Posted July 13, 2014 Posted July 13, 2014 It certainly is more true of some than others when it comes to romance. I only actually knew one guy who religiously was only interested in women who demonstrated that they were interested in him. I know it's probably healthier to be that way, but I can't help wonder if there was some fear involved too. As with everything else, I'm guessing a nice balance not too far one way or the other is best. 2
leavesonautumn Posted July 13, 2014 Posted July 13, 2014 Every relationship I've been in has started out with the guy liking me more and me becoming interested once they showed their attraction. Fortunately for me, I ended up just seeing what they could and I didn't at first. I very rarely am interested in people, might be the introvert in me. Anytime I've been the one to show interest first, it never went anywhere. 1
somedude81 Posted July 13, 2014 Posted July 13, 2014 I'd pretty much like any girl who likes me first as long as she doesn't turn me off. BTW, the only GF I've ever had, liked me first. Once I figured out she was interested, everything was easy.
Priv Posted July 13, 2014 Posted July 13, 2014 All the time. We like those who like us, and are mostly disinterested in those we percieve not to like us. Is is well studied behaviour. Reciprocal liking - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia
somedude81 Posted July 13, 2014 Posted July 13, 2014 In my experience, reciprocal liking does not work on women. I have never had a girl I liked first, start liking me back.
Priv Posted July 13, 2014 Posted July 13, 2014 Yea dude, but do you actually like her or think 'hey that person has girly parts, I likey'. There is a difference
somedude81 Posted July 13, 2014 Posted July 13, 2014 Yea dude, but do you actually like her or think 'hey that person has girly parts, I likey'. There is a difference When I like a girl, I fall for her hard. I become devastated when they ultimately reject me especially when we are friends. The last five or so girls I really liked, not including my ex, were friends that I would often hang out with. Some knew I liked them, some didn't. None of them ever returned my affections. Frankly, if the reciprocal liking thing worked on girls, the term friendzone wouldn't exist.
RaceCarrington Posted July 13, 2014 Posted July 13, 2014 When I like a girl, I fall for her hard. I become devastated when they ultimately reject me especially when we are friends. The last five or so girls I really liked, not including my ex, were friends that I would often hang out with. Some knew I liked them, some didn't. None of them ever returned my affections. Frankly, if the reciprocal liking thing worked on girls, the term friendzone wouldn't exist. I think that the problem is that allot of women see themselves as the big prize and the shmuck of a man has to impress them and go all out for them before they'll even decide if they like the guy let alone go out with him. I'm not saying this to be mean to women it's just in my own experience this is how I've been made to feel.
ThaWholigan Posted July 13, 2014 Posted July 13, 2014 I think this happens in a lot of cases. Myself, I find that a lot of the attraction I've had has been mutual to some degree, at least in the last 5 years or so.
somedude81 Posted July 13, 2014 Posted July 13, 2014 I think that the problem is that allot of women see themselves as the big prize and the shmuck of a man has to impress them and go all out for them before they'll even decide if they like the guy let alone go out with him. I'm not saying this to be mean to women it's just in my own experience this is how I've been made to feel. I don't think that's the case at all. Just that the trick is to not bother with asking a girl out until you have a pretty good idea that she already likes you. Until a guy knows a girl likes him, it's pointless to try and chase her.
Keenly Posted July 13, 2014 Posted July 13, 2014 It certainly is more true of some than others when it comes to romance. I only actually knew one guy who religiously was only interested in women who demonstrated that they were interested in him. I know it's probably healthier to be that way, but I can't help wonder if there was some fear involved too. As with everything else, I'm guessing a nice balance not too far one way or the other is best. I'm one of these people. I've been hurt / let down / disappointed white a bit in my life when it comes to.my feelings, so I have some kind of armor over my feelings that makes it difficult to develop them without knowing for a fact that she is into me. Once I know she is into me, my feelings come quick, if the person is right.
Author Monm82 Posted July 14, 2014 Author Posted July 14, 2014 (edited) I'm talking more like: You're not all that attracted to them at first, but them being attracted to you makes you much more attracted to them. I think this is probably more common with men, becauae they have less options compared to women. Edited July 14, 2014 by Monm82 1
rosenwood Posted July 22, 2014 Posted July 22, 2014 Thinking about it, yeah, I guess I become more attracted to people who likes me first.
the tank Posted July 22, 2014 Posted July 22, 2014 How often does this happen? Possibly more common with guys? I was like this but my last break up teach me to never settle for less. Lot of my guy's friend are like this.
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