Wisecrack Posted July 12, 2014 Posted July 12, 2014 Never kissed or anything. She's turned me down before. Yet we've gotten 'cosy' at partys. Ironically when we are at the same party, we 'behave' that is, neither of us is chatting up people of the opposite sex and when we are, the other is basically watching our every move. We message each other everyday and throughout the day. I'm not sure how to go about this. I use to be a bit of a player before all this. Yet I was not happy. Then I got a reality shot and started turning my life around fitness health - wise and educationally and career wise. I put my love life on hold but then met the above chick. A female friend of mine (friends with the chick above) then kicked something into me; something about not doing the 'move on to another ho if she is not interested and actually persist and try'. Well this is whats happened to me now with the girl above. What should I be doing?
travelbug1996 Posted July 12, 2014 Posted July 12, 2014 Have you ever asked her out properly and spent time with her?
Author Wisecrack Posted July 12, 2014 Author Posted July 12, 2014 Yeah I have and we click really well but I feel like a meme I've seen of Milhouse (from Simpsons) when she asks Lisa, 'You don't want me but you don't want me to be with someone else'.
phineas Posted July 12, 2014 Posted July 12, 2014 Your first mistake was continuing to talk to her when she turned you down. I don't see how a "player" can be so inept at dating. You do the exact same thing you did before. You just don't drop them after you get in their pants. Even women who want relationships will end up trying to lock down players. But, you should know this. you should also know if she doesn't want to date you she is wasting your time.
truth_seeker Posted July 12, 2014 Posted July 12, 2014 Turned you down? As in you asked her out on a date and she said no or you made a move on her and she rejected your advances?
Author Wisecrack Posted July 12, 2014 Author Posted July 12, 2014 That's the thing. I'm trying to do things differently this time and it looks like it's backfired.
phineas Posted July 12, 2014 Posted July 12, 2014 That's the thing. I'm trying to do things differently this time and it looks like it's backfired. Yeah because you acted like the "nice guy" that makes a women's vagina dry up like the sierra. I got in this situation once after my divorce. I then went out with someone else & ignored the other women all night. I finally responded to her the next morning and she wanted to know why I didn't respond. I told her I was at a concert and she wanted to know with who so I told her & she got bent I was on a date. I simply responded with "Are we BF & GF?" silence. Told her i'd talk to her later & hung up. I banged her that week. but, i shouldn't have to tell you this.
Mike B. Posted July 12, 2014 Posted July 12, 2014 That's the thing. I'm trying to do things differently this time and it looks like it's backfired. A man that never changes is not growing. I think it is cool you that tried to do things differently so don't bite yourself in the ass because the results have not turned out to be exactly the way you expected. You mentioned nothing of golden sun rays radiating from this woman's body so I think it is alright for this one to not turn out exactly how you planned. I would try persisting just like your friend told you. This is not something you usually do so obviously you are not one of those guys who does this all the time, never gets the woman and never learns. Continue to try the persistence in this one little itty bitty trial and see where it gets you. If you don't like the end results, you can always switch up. You got options. I would step up the advances. You have never kissed her? Why? The only reason for not having even attempted a kiss is that you have known her for less than one day. Have you even tried or are you one of those guys who feel that they have to ask permission for a kiss first? Hey, "player," walk right up to her, put your hands on her waist and kiss her. You have Uncle Mike's permission.
Mike B. Posted July 12, 2014 Posted July 12, 2014 I always say mixed signals means no signal. And this is overall a good saying. I was thinking that as I wrote my other post. When it comes to mix signals, usually the less favorable signals are the most important to focus on. Considering that, OP, you have nothing to lose and is already out there so I wouldn't take this situation too serious and just persist and see where it gets you.
Author Wisecrack Posted July 12, 2014 Author Posted July 12, 2014 Cheers guys, yeah I'm seeing what I've been doing wrong. The worst part was advice from this chicks friend. I'm not interested in the chicks friend but I'd put her up as a model and she's finally got with a dude after he chased her for 8 months hence why she's been pushing me to keep doing what I've done. No it's time to drop this 'nice guy' act. And no I have not. I've had situations where I've tried - she's sitting on my lap but she avoids looking at me or we are embracing and she's just burying her face in my chest. My male friends say I should have just manned up and guided her face up and kissed her then.
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