usaims Posted July 10, 2014 Posted July 10, 2014 I've come to realize that us men stare/look at women longer then we should and I have read this makes a girl uncomfortable. Just the other day at Walmart, while I was looking at shampoos, there was an attractive girl next to me and of course -- being a guy -- I looked not once, not twice, but maybe three times. I wasn't stalking. They were brief looks and I couldn't help looking at her -- it was a really nice girl to look at. She never looked at me or I didn't catch her -- you girls really don't like us catching you looking at us guys -- girls look through the corner of their eye. Also, when I walk by a girl, I'll look and if she gives me eye contact, I'll smile at her. Is it ok to smile at girls like that? When I'm at the gym, I'll do everything in my power not to look at girls. I've come to the conclusion that it is really not a good idea to look at girls in public or to be caught by the girl looking at you. In my view, if the girls is interested, she will give you every indication for you to pursue and looking or being caught looking doesn't really get you anywhere -- am I right.
preraph Posted July 11, 2014 Posted July 11, 2014 I honestly think the best solution that will remove any potential creep factor or make the girl feel like a piece of meat is to make it a habit to smile and look at everyone, not just the hot girls. Because you're right, it's not comfortable for them and it doesn't do much to endear you to them. But if they see you wherever smiling at people you pass in the store or on the street or on the club and it's everyone, it really does a lot for you because it makes you very approachable -- and that goes for women too. My most popular friend just talks and is open and friendly with everyone around her and used to have so many guys after her. Probably still does.
todreaminblue Posted July 11, 2014 Posted July 11, 2014 I have been with a few guys that stare at other women while talking to me or on a date with me.......it isnt cool .....looking is ok ...but staring isnt........deb 1
SammySammy Posted July 11, 2014 Posted July 11, 2014 There's a difference between staring at girls and looking at girls. Eye contact can convey attraction as much as it can convey creepiness. I think the creep factor comes in with the guy who is looking, but pretending not to look. Being sneaky about it and acting as if he's doing something wrong. However, a look can say "I think you're attractive and would like to meet you". Flirtatious glances. Seductive glances. It's not what you do, but how you do it. 2
leavesonautumn Posted July 11, 2014 Posted July 11, 2014 There's nothing wrong with looking but the creepiness sets in when they stare or blow a kiss or lick their lips (seriously guys, stop this). I've caught myself staring at a guy while walking and almost running into something. So, for sure this is something that both sexes do. I've never dated a guy who stared at other women when they're with me which I think is really respectful. Smiling at anyone, not just attractive people makes you a likable, approachable person. 2
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