jtup90 Posted July 10, 2014 Posted July 10, 2014 (edited) hHi guys to cut it short me and my ex gf have been broke up for over 2 years nows pretty bad break up, she moved on a month after we broke up and recently broke up with the guy and is currently single, i heard a few months back. For the past year i have been in strict NC with her (initiated by myself). However she approached me at a bar a month back and said hello and asked how i was, she seemed fairly nervous, i responded saying that i'm good and then said have a nice weekend and bye and that was that. however the whole of last week i pondered about clearing the air and putting us on good terms as i felt that it was eating at me, preventing me from moving on fully. So i sent her a message on facebook ( we weren't friends on it) saying hello and that i wanted to the clear the air and make sure we were on good terms as i felt it would get rid of some weight off my shoulders. She responsed imnediately saying shes glad the airs clear and regrets what she did to me (left me for someone else basically) and for the mistakes she made a few years back and has learned from these mistakes and is stronger and that she glad we spoke as she has wanted to do it for quite a long time, which is why she approaced me at the bar. We talked for a bit about what we were at with our lives then i said goodbye, next morning though she added me as a friend and sent me a photo of a type of dog she wanted but we haven't spoke in a few days and i don't plan on speaking to her despite the fact that i want to. Now the thing is after all of this i think feelings for her may have resurfaced so i am thinking about deleting facebook again and carrying on with the NC now that we are on amicable terms as i don't want my feelings to come back. I believe she is also chatting to another guy and i think she may be interested in him ,so i don't really want to know in fairness, as i don't want to get hurt, as a small part of me wants me for her to show interest in me again but also don't want to feel like she is keeping me on the side or anything like that and i don't want to be friends because our relationship was quite intense and don't think i could look at her only as a friend. So shall i go ahead and delete fb, continue NC and just not contact her again because that was the original plan. HELP ON WHAT TO DO NEXT WOULD BE APPRECIATED! THANKS! Edited July 11, 2014 by jtup90 title error
SailorGirl925 Posted July 11, 2014 Posted July 11, 2014 Please don't let her come back into your life. You are asking for more heartbreak. When people show you who they are, the first time, believe them. We always want what we can't have and we sit and let our heads turn these people into rock stars thinking we have lost the best thing that will ever happen to us. We don't think clearly and waste so much time waiting for them to throw us breadcrumbs. Be strong and don't let her come back and rip your heart out again. If she did it once, she will do it again. Watch her actions, not her words. Hang in there - lots of us in the same boat. It's hard to do NC and move on but we must, otherwise we're stuck in this whirlpool of torment and hurt. She's not worth it - you deserve better. 1
flight E Posted July 11, 2014 Posted July 11, 2014 You started this. Don't delete her from facebook if you can move on without that but make sure you don't reach her again. Move on
Author jtup90 Posted July 11, 2014 Author Posted July 11, 2014 (edited) Thanks for the replies No i didn't delete her i just just deactivated my fb account i'm just going to continue with no contact i've said what i needed to say and its on good terms so its finished. The thing i feel worst about is the fact i broke NC after a year but this is partly down to her talking to me first beforehand. Guess i've learnt from this mistake. Edited July 11, 2014 by jtup90 1
d0nnivain Posted July 11, 2014 Posted July 11, 2014 Go back to NC. The fact was you were still hung up on her two years after the break up. That's a long time. You need to get her out of your system & your life before you can be healthy again. You already know that she is pursuing other guys. Do not throw your hat into that ring. Leave her be & do something to cheer yourself up. This mourning period has to end.
Author jtup90 Posted July 11, 2014 Author Posted July 11, 2014 Wouldn't say i was hung up on her till recently, moment of weakness is all. Like i said i think i've learnt from this mistake i should just keep her in the past and ride out any weak moments and go back to NC.
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