kolleamm Posted July 10, 2014 Posted July 10, 2014 Shes 36, and I'm 22. She lives far away in the Philippines but we have started skyping a lot. She loves to dance with me on skype and calls me when it's 3am there when shes in her bed. I even found out she recorded me while I was dancing and has it on her phone. My question is could I make this work or is long distance doomed?
d0nnivain Posted July 10, 2014 Posted July 10, 2014 Stranger things have happened. If you are happy do what you can to make it a reality but be careful . . . OL is not RL Also don't call her a cougar to her face. It's kind of a demeaning term. 1
CarrieT Posted July 10, 2014 Posted July 10, 2014 My gut reaction is no... You have never met in person. You are in love with what you BELIEVE this person is like, but without spending time together IN REAL LIFE, there are so many things you don't know. You have created a fantasy based on what she has told you and shown you, but there is S.O. M.U.C.H. M.O.R.E that you do not know. 5
thekid36 Posted July 10, 2014 Posted July 10, 2014 Shes 36, and I'm 22. She lives far away in the Philippines but we have started skyping a lot. She loves to dance with me on skype and calls me when it's 3am there when shes in her bed. I even found out she recorded me while I was dancing and has it on her phone. My question is could I make this work or is long distance doomed? So in general, many may say that long distance relationships are doomed to fail. I continue to believe that distance only need be temporary. If both people are willing to be together, there is always a way to make it happen. It is the connection you have that is most important. I would much rather have one minute a day on the phone with someone who is the perfect partner for me as opposed to an entire lifetime in person with the wrong one. Specifically, the only thing that you may want to consider is trying to find some way to meet in person before making more permanent plans. 2
babycakees Posted July 10, 2014 Posted July 10, 2014 My gut reaction is no... You have never met in person. You are in love with what you BELIEVE this person is like, but without spending time together IN REAL LIFE, there are so many things you don't know. You have created a fantasy based on what she has told you and shown you, but there is S.O. M.U.C.H. M.O.R.E that you do not know. This!! I was just about to say this exact thing. You need to realize that she is only showing her best side to you right now. There is no possible way to love someone without spending RL time with them. 1
Author kolleamm Posted July 10, 2014 Author Posted July 10, 2014 So in general, many may say that long distance relationships are doomed to fail. I continue to believe that distance only need be temporary. If both people are willing to be together, there is always a way to make it happen. It is the connection you have that is most important. I would much rather have one minute a day on the phone with someone who is the perfect partner for me as opposed to an entire lifetime in person with the wrong one. Specifically, the only thing that you may want to consider is trying to find some way to meet in person before making more permanent plans. I definitely agree with that. Long distance is hard and it does take work but if you are willing to put in the work it might just be worth it in the end. It's funny because at first I was really skeptical and approaching the whole situation with a grain of salt, but now that I feel I know her a little more I can't help but think about her more and more. I really can't help it. It's like a virus.
todreaminblue Posted July 10, 2014 Posted July 10, 2014 Shes 36, and I'm 22. She lives far away in the Philippines but we have started skyping a lot. She loves to dance with me on skype and calls me when it's 3am there when shes in her bed. I even found out she recorded me while I was dancing and has it on her phone. My question is could I make this work or is long distance doomed? how do you dance on skype?
CarrieT Posted July 10, 2014 Posted July 10, 2014 how do you dance on skype? You can dance if you want to.... You can leave your friends behind ....
Poppygoodwill Posted July 10, 2014 Posted July 10, 2014 anything is possible and I'm a romantic so I always say 'go for it!" Better to live with memory of love than regrets for not trying it. That said, it's pretty unusual for a women in the Philipines to be her age and single and without kids. You portray her as unencumbered. Is she divorced? Does she have kids? What does she do for a living? How did you come to know about one another? I find it odd that she'd be awake at 3 am to skype you...unless she's staying up late to do it. Or she's coming home from work right around that time...
usaims Posted July 11, 2014 Posted July 11, 2014 Dude, I was once 27 and dated a 40 year old from Brazil. Unless you have a lot of money, she wants a GREEN CARD and you being young and naive, you are falling for it. She is too far away dude -- you are truly living a fantasy. But the only way you are going to learn is by making mistakes like I did -- it was a costly mistake. Find your self a nice girl in your hometown where can enjoy her company and sleep with her. DON"T SEND HER MONEY ALSO, DUDE! That's my two cents now go live and learn and learn from your costly mistakes! 3
Author kolleamm Posted July 11, 2014 Author Posted July 11, 2014 Dude, I was once 27 and dated a 40 year old from Brazil. Unless you have a lot of money, she wants a GREEN CARD and you being young and naive, you are falling for it. She is too far away dude -- you are truly living a fantasy. But the only way you are going to learn is by making mistakes like I did -- it was a costly mistake. Find your self a nice girl in your hometown where can enjoy her company and sleep with her. DON"T SEND HER MONEY ALSO, DUDE! That's my two cents now go live and learn and learn from your costly mistakes! Yeah that sounds about right haha
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