sending dirty snapchats to an ex - bad or good idea?

[coralsmith]

I was talking to a friend the other day - we had both been broken up with a few months ago.

 

We have been working out together/eating right and gotten into shape. She's lost a lot of weight in particular. She mentioned she was feeling/looking particularly good one morning and took a snapchat of herself in plain underwear (so nothing very racy!) and sent it to a mutual male friend of ours for one second.

 

She said she found the reaction really funny (he was gutted it as only for a second and the unexpectedness of it threw him!) and flattering. I think it boosted her confidence to get a positive reaction like that.

 

It lead us into talking about sending similar pictures to exes, assuming they weren't in a relationship.

 

Neither of our breakups were particularly messy. I reckon my ex would take it in good humour.

 

We basically debated on whether it was a good way to show your ex what they're missing and a bit of lighthearted fun,

 

OR if it came across as desperate and should be avoided at all costs.

 

So assuming it was a quick, one second picture and they didn't have time to register what it was and therefore take a screenshot in time - what are other peoples' thoughts?

 

Guys, how would you feel if you received this from an ex?

 

Girls, have you ever done it?

[JimmyWeezy]

I used to send my (ex) bf pics of me in my underwear or naked to turn him on, to find out he was joining chat a behind my back. So i don't think sending them pics of us once they broke up with us is helpful or whatever. They would come to us if they thought they were missing something good.

But if you don't give a eff about the way he may or may not reply, go for it. Don't hold your breath tho

[Smarty Pants]

I wouldn't take any of my exes seriously if they did that and I would probably just laugh.

 

I think it's a little desperate. Send it to a guy who didn't dump you.

[pteromom]

OR if it came across as desperate and should be avoided at all costs.

 

Yes, this.

 

I imagine them showing the pic to their friends and all sharing a good laugh over how much you guys must still want them.

[d0nnivain]

Do what will make you happy but understand you can't pull some of this back once it;s out there. How would you feel if your parents or your boss saw the pictures? If that thought makes you uncomfortable don't take them or send them. Once in cyberspace you lose all control of them.

 

I also agree that if you must send them to somebody who is NOT an EX.

[NopeNah]

I'd have to see said pics to give accurate advice.

[Grumpybutfun]

Desperate and manipulative. It would probably strengthen my resolve on why I dumped you. Sending exploitive pics of yourself after the breakup would say to me you have no self respect. Sending Snapchat naughties in a LTR or marriage is a different story so save those types of pics for men you can trust and who want them.

Good luck,

Grumps

[me85]

No, don't snapchat them to him!

 

Email or text them to him, rather. :p:laugh:

 

I've never sent anything without an invitation. Yes, my ex has sexted me (he started it! lol) and before I knew it he was sending me pics & begging for me to send pics too. So ya, I did it. The sex and dirty talk was always hot and our chemistry was always on.

 

Will I do it again? No. I felt cheap later on. But I don't really regret doing it though. I have mixed feelings about it, I guess.

Edited July 11, 2014 by me85

[Trimmer]

We basically debated on whether it was a good way to show your ex what they're missing and a bit of lighthearted fun,

These are two completely different things. I think you are telling yourself that you are having "a bit of lighthearted fun", but inside you are really trying to "show your ex what they're missing."

 

And the result is that:

 

it [comes] across as desperate and should be avoided at all costs.

 

As far as your control over your image:

So assuming it was a quick, one second picture and they didn't have time to register what it was and therefore take a screenshot in time - what are other peoples' thoughts?

My thoughts are that since there are now apps available to auto-save Snapchats, and even Snapchat's latest upgrade (on Android, anyway) now allows me to "replay" one Snapchat each day, just setting to "one second" does not at all guarantee that your picture will disappear as you may expect.