malin819 Posted July 10, 2014 Posted July 10, 2014 I met this wonderful young gorgeous woman early June. We went on a few dates and everything went very well. She cancelled 2 of our dates. The first one she cancelled she had some bad news at the doctor (ok I understand) and the second one her brother ended up in the ER (but she attended an event on facebook with her family that same night) She then left for Miami at the end of June and came back the second of July. She told me she was going with some girlfriends but she posted during her trip a picture of her and a guy. Me being curious I looked up his profile and he had some pictures with her to. I decided to look up his profile a little more and they she commented on a bunch of his picture from February till May (looking gorgeous babe, xoxo...thats kind of stuff) I asked her about him very gently and she said it was only a friend. We were suppose to see each other Tuesday but she cancelled at the last minute again saying she was tired from working but she had time since she came back to go see 2 concerts???? I was really mad and told her that if someone is interested usually they will make an effort to see the other person and spend time with him. She replied that she took her time and didn`t want to put her life on hold for someone and that I knew she was busy. She is always texting me that she misses and even during her trip but her actions don't back up her words. Now for the interesting part...she posted another picture of her with her best friend like she said but one of her family member commented: New boyfriend??? And she liked that comment...now I`m don’t understand anything Could you guys share some input and lighten me up. I`m really confused
d0nnivain Posted July 10, 2014 Posted July 10, 2014 FB isn't real. The fact that she isn't making an effort to see you is more telling then her FB pictures. Tell her you are around & when she's free to call you. Then move on because she probably won't call 1
Zahara Posted July 10, 2014 Posted July 10, 2014 I don't think she's really that into you. You're the guy in the background that she picks up when she needs whatever she needs. Telling that she actually pays more attention to other guys on some site that she does to you. If someone keeps cancelling on me, and what's worse, tells me that he has to cancel because he had a tiring workout, and prioritizes events/concerts over seeing me...I'd accept that he really wasn't that into me. I'm not sure why you are hanging around like a puppy dog. Look at her actions, not her words. 1
Gaeta Posted July 10, 2014 Posted July 10, 2014 Your instinct is right, you are being played. Move on to someone that is interested in getting to know you....for real. 1
molimo140 Posted July 10, 2014 Posted July 10, 2014 Even without the stupid Facebook bs, this girl does not sound interested in you. Move on to one that is 1
Yamaha Posted July 10, 2014 Posted July 10, 2014 If you don't like the way she is treating you then stop seeing her. Why waste your time on someone who doesn't make you a priority?
Author malin819 Posted July 10, 2014 Author Posted July 10, 2014 I guess you are all right!! Such a shame I've listened to her rambling when I confronted her about those issues and it was only about her her her...and her
Zahara Posted July 10, 2014 Posted July 10, 2014 I guess you are all right!! Such a shame I've listened to her rambling when I confronted her about those issues and it was only about her her her...and her Deep down you understand what's going on. You just don't want to let go because she's young, gorgeous and "wonderful". 2
Cunning_Linguist Posted July 10, 2014 Posted July 10, 2014 Sounds like she isn't that in to you. I doubt she is on fb, checking out all your past pictures, investigating other people who are on your profile. Learn from it and move on to the next.
fred123 Posted July 11, 2014 Posted July 11, 2014 Sounds like she isn't that in to you. I doubt she is on fb, checking out all your past pictures, investigating other people who are on your profile. Learn from it and move on to the next. have u kissed her? slept with her
Author malin819 Posted July 11, 2014 Author Posted July 11, 2014 of course we have kissed...but she left after for Miami anyways yesterday she decided to bring me to the spa with her and payed for everything we spent 4-5 hours there making out and talking. confusing I know
Scrab22 Posted July 11, 2014 Posted July 11, 2014 FB isn't real. The fact that she isn't making an effort to see you is more telling then her FB pictures. Tell her you are around & when she's free to call you. Then move on because she probably won't call Agreed. However, as one further step in understanding the situation, you can ask her why won't she plan to go to events such as concerts with you, as you would love to go with her. Still, that's one way of taking care of this situation. She seems like a complicated person, too unstable for you. Hence, you have the rights to move on and find someone else!
crude Posted July 11, 2014 Posted July 11, 2014 of course we have kissed...but she left after for Miami anyways yesterday she decided to bring me to the spa with her and payed for everything we spent 4-5 hours there making out and talking. confusing I know It isn't necessarily confusing. She's young and doesn't want to become exclusive in July, engaged in August, and married in September. Maybe she just wants to have some fun. The mere fact that she invited you to the spa and had the decency to pay shows that she's interested. If you don't want what you've been getting so far, then end it, because she doesn't appear to want a commitment right now. If you're not interested in a serious relationship so soon, then relax and enjoy. Instead of making you jump through hoops like a trained monkey, which is what so many women here seem to demand, she's done her share, albeit in her own inconsistent way. Take it or leave it; I'd take it.
aprilisi Posted July 11, 2014 Posted July 11, 2014 I agree, she's interested but not looking for a commitment. I've dated many men like this and more and more girls are doing it now. I say good for them. lol let the women sow their wild oats too
Author malin819 Posted July 11, 2014 Author Posted July 11, 2014 Well my weekend is starting Thanks for the advices!!
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