Elle1975 Posted July 10, 2014 Posted July 10, 2014 So.. I am at 3 months NC. For a week now, my ex has been pestering my dreams. I understand why, it's just bothering the hell out of me. I wake up and think "Oh, yep, dream." Get the hell out of my dreams. Something I didn't say when it happened a month ago, is that I was laid off. At the time, it was the cherry on my freaking cake. What now! (well what now was the 300 bucks I had to spend on my car yesterday). That leaves me with a lot of time on my hands. I'm going to the gym this morning, and I'm signed up to volunteer as as volunteer fire fighter (not to enter burning buildings hehe clerical help), so it's not like I sit on my hand. It still sucks. I have to admit that my ego is bruised, from the break up then, and now from losing my job. I am still in school, and I am starting again in September. Now I wish I had taken a summer class too. My dream last night btw? We're going to the movies, and he tells me that I have to find him, to prove I can be with him in a challenging situation. He disappears into this huge crowd of people and I am left standing there. I understand the mind is a powerful force, but f*ck..
sugarlove Posted July 10, 2014 Posted July 10, 2014 I find if I read too much about relationships things or check this forum before I sleep, my mind will still be on my ex before I sleep.. leading to dreams. Perhaps that's the cause?
Author Elle1975 Posted July 10, 2014 Author Posted July 10, 2014 I find if I read too much about relationships things or check this forum before I sleep, my mind will still be on my ex before I sleep.. leading to dreams. Perhaps that's the cause? Perhaps. I do the same thing. I go to bed, read, and usually check out the forums on my tablet. I also have been hanging out with his best friend and his wife - they reached out to me, which I was very surprised about. Although I made it clear I didn't want to know anything about the ex, it surely sets me back a little. His wife doesn't like my ex at all, and his best friend is super respectful of my boundaries, so I will not run into him. I thought about losing their friendship, but right now I can use all the help I can get; and to be honest, I don't want to lose them period, I really love their family, their little girl is adorable. Yes, I am independent, but I still need support from my friends - with life in general, and me losing my job after 5 years working for the same company. I suppose I am going to have to suck it up. I am just so tired of standing on my own two feet sometimes. My independence doesn't translate in a desire to be alone. Anyway, off to the pool I go.. in my hot pink sport bikini 1
sugarlove Posted July 10, 2014 Posted July 10, 2014 I understand how that feels. I wil say to try to stay way from the forum late at night. I find that helps me the best, no more dreams!! I do find when I have those exes dreams, I keep thinking it's a sign that all will be okay. But I know it's just a fantasy. You will be okay. I don't have a hot pink bikini but then again, it's winter here.
elseaacych Posted July 10, 2014 Posted July 10, 2014 Three months was about the time I started dreaming about my ex relentlessly. It's just your subconscious working things out. Don't distress about it. Give it a few weeks, and you will stop having them, and you'll be back to dreaming about turkeys in UGG boots or whatever. 1
Author Elle1975 Posted July 10, 2014 Author Posted July 10, 2014 You will be okay. I don't have a hot pink bikini but then again, it's winter here. Where is "here"? I wear a bikini at the pool. I don't have that many years left in one lol Oh and i know it's just the subconscious acting up Elsea, It's just annoying. PS: nvm, Sydney! 1
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