GilesB Posted July 10, 2014 Posted July 10, 2014 I’ve known this guy for about 6 weeks, and he initially started contacting me via a dating website. I wasn’t too sure about him at first but thought I would talk to him for a bit. He gave me his number and we started texting quite a lot and I started to like him. He went on holiday about 3 weeks ago. Before he went I sent him a text saying 'enjoy your holiday and don't have too much fun'. I was surprised that he replied and asked me to get watsapp as he had free wifi and wanted to keep chatting because he said he thought I would forget him. At first I thought he was being a bit too needy, but I kept in contact as he was a nice guy and we had been on a date before he went on vacation. We had planned a date for when he got back, but a few days after he got back he started texting me less. At first I thought he is probably busy with work, and when I texted him that was what he said. I sent him another text asking how his weekend had been (a few days later) as I hadn’t heard anything from him and he replied again almost straight away to say ‘yeah it’s been ok but I’ve been so swamped at work which is why I’ve not being too talkative recently xx’. I left it for 4 days before replying and I just said ‘yeah work can be manic after a vacation. I hope you’ve managed to get some rest x’. Now it’s been 6 days and I haven’t heard from him….I’ve asked friends for advice and they have all said different things but I wanted to get some advice from other people to see if anyone has been in a similar situation and how they dealt with it. Do you think he has moved on or is he genuinely busy? Shall I wait a few more days to see if he texts, forget about him, or send him another text? I don’t want to come across as being too needy or annoying if I do text him again. As you can tell I am not very experienced when it comes to dating...
d0nnivain Posted July 10, 2014 Posted July 10, 2014 The ball is in his court. He knows how to get in touch with you. If he does & you are still interested, fine. Until then you have to assume he's long gone & not coming back. He may have met somebody on the vacation or through whatsapp or on the dating site. Sorry. 1
HappyLove Posted July 10, 2014 Posted July 10, 2014 This is very normal with OLDing. Most people OLDing are dating and talking to several people at once. You should be also. He's most likely moved on but will probably throw you a breadcrumb one day.
Zahara Posted July 10, 2014 Posted July 10, 2014 Shall I wait a few more days to see if he texts, forget about him, or send him another text? I don’t want to come across as being too needy or annoying if I do text him again. As you can tell I am not very experienced when it comes to dating... This is common with OLD. You shouldn't text him anymore. Since he's the one that is "busy" then let him make the next move. Most likely "busy" is him dating and communicating with others, something you should be doing as well.
Cunning_Linguist Posted July 10, 2014 Posted July 10, 2014 You gave him the chance to meet you halfway and he didn't take it. At this point in the "relationship" there should be an equal investment. It's up to you whether you want to push it or not. Although, I'm big on perseverance. Girls have tied me down in the past through sheer perseverance, and vice versa. Sometimes it's just bad timing, or whatever. It's up to you whether you want to swallow your pride and pursue him, or let it die.
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