LiveALittle Posted July 10, 2014 Posted July 10, 2014 Hi, I have something called AvPD (avoidant personality disorder). It's basically an extreme version of social anxiety, which makes it nearly impossible for me to talk to people or to socialize. I constantly have a mask on in every situation and am not really ever able to be myself. I also haven't ever had a relationship and I'm 22, not because girls have never been interested in me, but because of this fear of people and interpersonal relationships. There is this girl in the gym who's really attractive, and I'm pretty sure she's into me too. We've been going to the same gym for the past 2 months. She's made clear signs that she would like for me to approach her, but I haven't because I find it extremely intimidating not least because she's extremely beautiful. Yesterday she approached me and asked me a simple question, and I was very stand-offish without meaning to be. She was very upset and hurt afterwards. Normally I wouldn't care, but there is something about this girl that I can't get out of my mind... it's been driving me crazy. What can I do? Is it too late to approach her and introduce myself? What can I say? Thank you.
d0nnivain Posted July 10, 2014 Posted July 10, 2014 Are you in therapy for your AvPD? There have to be techniques you can learn to compensate for this condition. Try joining a group called ToastMasters. It's more about public speaking but it can help with social anxiety Smile & say hello next time you see her. Keep doing that for a while & be nicer when we talks to you again. Work from there.
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