nes9 Posted July 10, 2014 Posted July 10, 2014 Okay, so I made a post a few days ago about whether or not I should ask this girl out on a second date. A quick recap of date one without going into ALL the details: I was hanging with a bunch of friends at a beach one day and I met this girl through my buddy's GF. We hit it off and at the end of the day I got her number and asked her out. She accepted and was excited to meet up for a drink last Thursday. We go on a date, have a few drinks and I end up back at her place (we only made out, no sex). The morning after seemed to go OK as well. In my opinion, she began to flake through text, as she seemed to stop contacting me, but would still give delayed responses. I contacted her a couple times and she would respond asking me how my day was etc. This past Sunday (3 days after date one), I was playing volleyball with a bunch of my friends and other people, and she ended up being there. At the end of the evening, she came and sat next to me off to the side and we talked for a little bit. I ended up asking her to dinner for Monday, but she had to work nights through today (Wednesday). I work 9-5 so our schedules conflicted for a date in that regard. I asked her what she's doing for the upcoming weekend and she is flying out to visit a friend from Thursday to Sunday. I didn't ask to set up a date for when she gets back, because that seemed weird to set a date that far in advance IMO. When we were talking through text last night, she mentioned she would be back on Sunday by about 630 pm, and that maybe she could meet up then to play volleyball again or something of the likes. My gut tells me she has some level of interest still (albeit I'm not sure how much), but is uncertain. If she was COMPLETELY uninterested, I feel like she wouldn't respond to my texts at all, and certainly not ask probing questions like how my day has been etc. Should I bother trying to ask for a second date again? She had legitimate reasons for not being able to meet up this week, but for some reason I feel she's being flaky. If I do decide to ask her out again, I'm a little bit confused on how to go about it. Since she flies out tomorrow and won't be back until Sunday, I probably will go a good 4-5 days without contacting her.... is it weird to ask a girl out again after a period of silence that long? This girl is pretty cute/cool, so I want to make sure I don't quit on her too early, but also not beg her, so that I have my pride and dignity intact haha.
ThorntonMelon Posted July 10, 2014 Posted July 10, 2014 Why not tell her you had a nice first date, you'd like to go out again, would she be interested when she returns?
Author nes9 Posted July 10, 2014 Author Posted July 10, 2014 Yeah I suppose I could. The last text I sent her was, "Sounds good, enjoy your trip." Think it would be odd to just suddenly text her again asking her out?
Mike B. Posted July 10, 2014 Posted July 10, 2014 Yeah I suppose I could. The last text I sent her was, "Sounds good, enjoy your trip." Think it would be odd to just suddenly text her again asking her out? Yes, it would be so be patient and don't lose your cool.
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