How to deal with jealousy and feeling ugly when a friend can easily get a guy?

[Lipitor11]

I've always felt jealous of certain friends seeing how easily they can get a boyfriend, and basically get all the attention from guys. And please don't suggest dating sites, I'm talking about how easily they can met a guy out in the real world without even trying or looking. Guys just flock to them, I just feel ugly at times and worthless, its like I'm not worth anything if I don't have a man by my side. All that bull crap about getting an education, having a good job, being independent means nothing. Because in the end, someone will always ask, why don't you have a boyfriend/husband? I do retail therapy to help me, try to make me feel pretty, but that doesn't help, because I still don't get noticed by guys.

[Mr Scorpio]

All that bull crap about getting an education, having a good job, being independent means nothing. Because in the end, someone will always ask, why don't you have a boyfriend/husband?

 

 

Getting an education, having a good job, and being independent makes you more attractive to men. Perhaps not to boys, but definitely to men.

 

 

I do retail therapy to help me, try to make me feel pretty, but that doesn't help, because I still don't get noticed by guys.

 

 

Have you tried walking up and talking to them? That seems like a fine way to get noticed.

[sugarlove]

I'm an attractive girl and I think alot of guys are intimidated by that. the ones who approach me are often players. So.. it's not the quantity, more of the quality you want.

 

Doesn't matter if lots of guys flock to her.. I don't think that plays any role on your attractiveness.

 

Being happy and confident is the most attractive traits out there. so if you are feeling sad, it's almost like a GO AWAY sign on your head. You are not ready to date anyway.. so don't rush the process.

[No Limit]

I felt like you not too long ago. In my group of friends I'm the last single girl.

Then again, it polished my ego when a guy didn't believe me when I said I never had a boyfriend so far, with that funny look on his face.

 

Just focus on something else. Life doesn't depend on a partner.

[stillafool]

Maybe get a new set of friends.

[d0nnivain]

As posted in response to another thread, growing up I was the short fat ugly one in my group of friends. They were the hot blondes & I was the geeky smart brunette with coke bottle glasses.

 

I finally learned to emulate them & learn from them. I let them dress me more fashionably & do my make-up. It was a bit fake at first until I learned to take what they were teaching me & make it mine. But I watched how they flirted & what they did. I did those things too & viola it worked. The clothes & makeup tips alone boosted my confidence which probably helped more than the clothes & makeup.

 

We never really competed for the same guys because we were different types -- blonde v. brunette -- but the hair tosses, smiles, soft touches etc. were universal.