Eivuwan Posted July 9, 2014 Posted July 9, 2014 I know that I just have to go NC, but I am feeling so hurt and want to vent a bit. My ex and I broke up mainly due to long distance and his night shift. We only met 2x a month and when I do see him, he's tired and irritable which caused arguments between us. So we both decided that it was just not possible to be in a relationship right now. However, he said that if circumstances were different I would have been the best gf for him and that I will probably be the girl that he regrets letting go. I had positive feelings for him even though we broke up. However, I just found out that he handed his old phone to his cousin without bothering to remove his chat account. I was texting him about how I wish him well and how I hope we can be together someday when the circumstances are different. His cousin was able to read all that stuff. He didn't give a thought to my privacy or considered the possibility of us being in contact again later on. I just feel so hurt. My feelings suddenly feels one-sided. It wasn't like we stopped talking for months and so he forgot about the account. I was just speaking with him a few days ago and he already forgot about me to the point in which he didn't even think of deleting the app or removing the account when he gave his phone to his cousin. I don't know what to think. I just feel shocked and my perception of him is altered drastically.
Strength in Healing Posted July 10, 2014 Posted July 10, 2014 Your perception is altered because you now see him for what he is, versus who you thought he was due to the red glasses. You deserve someone who appreciates you being around and sees your value. Never forget your worth. 2
Author Eivuwan Posted July 10, 2014 Author Posted July 10, 2014 Your perception is altered because you now see him for what he is, versus who you thought he was due to the red glasses. You deserve someone who appreciates you being around and sees your value. Never forget your worth. Thank you, I know that. I have only been in two relationships. The first one lasted for way too long and he rarely treated me with consideration. I thought that was normal due to my upbringing. In my second relationship, he was so sweet and attentive to me in the beginning. No one has ever treated me so well, and now he's like the opposite. I feel like I just don't know how to pick partners anymore. I thought I chose a good one this time. Now it feels like it's hard to trust someone even when they are treating you well because they can just change later on. =(
Strength in Healing Posted July 10, 2014 Posted July 10, 2014 My advice would be to stay single and heal. Take a few months to find yourself again. Then you will find a healthy relationships.
Author Eivuwan Posted July 10, 2014 Author Posted July 10, 2014 Yeah, I will take a year off from dating. It's just so hard to focus on everything else because I do miss the intimacy of a romantic relationship. I also have a sex drive...
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