fldoglover Posted July 9, 2014 Posted July 9, 2014 My boyfriend broke up with me a little over a month ago, out of the blue and quite blatantly. Just came in one day told me he wasn't having fun anymore and wanted to break up. No specific reason and walked out. I felt like I was hit by a bus and just cried for days. At 24, my parents were even worried about my mental stability. To make matters worse, I live down the street from my ex and can see if he is home, if I look. I went psycho too for the first week. Calls, texts, a letter, etc. begging for him to come back. While it's only been 3 weeks since I have last had any contact with him, I feel like a whole new person. I have realized that our relationship wasn't that great and I am starting to do things with my friends that I wouldn't have before because my boyfriend was so boring. I though 4th of July was going to be tough because my ex and I had made plans, but I ended up going on a trip to see old friends from college and ended up going on a date with an old friend. I have been on a few dates and while I know they won't led to anything (I am not ready), it feels so great to see what it's like to be treated properly. 3 weeks ago, I would have jumped in front of a bus to be back with my ex, but now I have no desire to even see him. I know it's tough because I initially used NC for him to come back, but still with it. Delete numbers, avoid their house and places you can see them, stay busy and I promise it will get better. Heck, you'll be better than you were with them. I realized that I was committing myself too much and now know that I need to back off a little. I know this isn't really advice or a question, but I wanted to share my success just to give hope to some of those going through what I did. Give no contact a try, I promise it will work and you will look a lot better in the end. As hard as it is to accept, you can't make someone love you, but you can give yourself a second chance. 1
NC-Thomas Posted July 9, 2014 Posted July 9, 2014 When I read 'success story' in your title, I though about being back together. But then I guess the only success to get from NC is inner, mental strength and happiness. Still not feeling it though. You will go through many phases after a break-up. Things have their way of going up and down as you move along. Good luck girl and keep your head up! You deserve someone who gives a 100% 1
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