Georgia2014 Posted July 9, 2014 Posted July 9, 2014 I have a first date with a new guy today. We are going to a nice Italian restaurant should I offer to pay for half the check or should I let him pay?
Gaeta Posted July 9, 2014 Posted July 9, 2014 Who's idea was it to go to a restaurant as a first date? Was it something like 'we should meet at...' or one of you said 'I am inviting you to...' ?
carrie_o Posted July 9, 2014 Posted July 9, 2014 You should offer. You don't want to seem like you are taking advantage of the guy. He might say no or splitting the bill might be exactly what he wants. Either way, it makes you look better in his eyes. 1
PegNosePete Posted July 9, 2014 Posted July 9, 2014 There are 2 schools of thought on this. 1) If a woman pays half then she doesn't want to see you again. She is making sure everything is even so she doesn't "owe" you anything. 2) If a woman pays half it means she wants to see you again. She is showing you that she is a modern independent woman. Roll the dice! 3
Author Georgia2014 Posted July 9, 2014 Author Posted July 9, 2014 Who's idea was it to go to a restaurant as a first date? Was it something like 'we should meet at...' or one of you said 'I am inviting you to...' ? He asked me out. He asked where I wanted to meet at. If I offer to pay half won't he then always expect me to pay half?
PegNosePete Posted July 9, 2014 Posted July 9, 2014 If you like him, why not let him pay, and offer to pay next time..? It keeps things even and tells him you're up for another date.
carhill Posted July 9, 2014 Posted July 9, 2014 I have a first date with a new guy today. We are going to a nice Italian restaurant should I offer to pay for half the check or should I let him pay? OP, my suggestion is to not ponder such matters in advance, rather go with the flow and see how things work out.
Gaeta Posted July 9, 2014 Posted July 9, 2014 When the waitress comes to the table she will be looking at him and ask if it's separate or one bill. If he says it's one bill, smile and say thank you. If you feel one moment of hesitation from him just jump in and says you're ok with paying your dinner of course with a smile. If he pays for you then offer to leave the tip. He may refuse....if he's German lol, I am never offering to leave the tip when out with a German man, he was so offended.
Smilecharmer Posted July 9, 2014 Posted July 9, 2014 He asked me out. He asked where I wanted to meet at. If I offer to pay half won't he then always expect me to pay half? Yes, it sets a precedence that you like to go Dutch so he will expect that in the future. If you like going Dutch then pay half and just be yourself and just enjoy his company. If he insists on paying, tell him you will pick up the movie or the next date. I think most guys now like to be treated sometimes too.
Madman81 Posted July 9, 2014 Posted July 9, 2014 Offer, but don't push the matter if he insists on paying (which he should, IMHO). If the date is going well and you want it to continue after dinner, suggest that you buy you both coffee somewhere else later. My wife did that on our first date. She didn't actually get to offer to pay for dinner because as soon as the bill came, I plunked down the plastic and that was it. The fact that she offered to buy us coffee later, even though it was a small amount relative to what I'd paid, was a classy move and I appreciated it. The date finally ended at about 3 a.m. when we realized how late it was. 4
Smilecharmer Posted July 9, 2014 Posted July 9, 2014 Offer, but don't push the matter if he insists on paying (which he should, IMHO). If the date is going well and you want it to continue after dinner, suggest that you buy you both coffee somewhere else later. My wife did that on our first date. She didn't actually get to offer to pay for dinner because as soon as the bill came, I plunked down the plastic and that was it. The fact that she offered to buy us coffee later, even though it was a small amount relative to what I'd paid, was a classy move and I appreciated it. The date finally ended at about 3 a.m. when we realized how late it was. Awww, so sweet, you two sound so cute. It really is about both people making the other feel liked. 1
d0nnivain Posted July 9, 2014 Posted July 9, 2014 I always offer on a 1st date but I'm not thrilled when a guy takes me up on it. Even if he pays, I insist on leaving the tip. I have no problems with a guy who lets me do that. As a safety precaution just so you don't get stuck, you should be prepared to cover the whole check if need be. You may find yourself just wanting to get the heck out of there. I had a bad 1st OLD dinner date, so I paid the check when he was in the bathroom because I didn't want to spend even one extra second there nor did I want even a hint that I could possibly owe him a good night kiss.
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