eh94 Posted July 9, 2014 Posted July 9, 2014 Okay, so there is this girl at my church that I have known for quite a few years, but never really got around to getting to know well. I suppose this happened because we weren't really in the same friend circles and I went to boarding school a few years. We've been getting to know each other lately. The other day, her car broke down before an event and she mentioned that she wouldn't be going because she needed a ride (the event also happened to be at my house). I offered to pick her up and it turns out that we had a really good conversation in the car and both laughed a lot about so many different things. Since then, we message almost every day and often bring up inside jokes that we laughed about in the car. I am interested in this girl and would like to see things become more than friends, but wanted to ask you guys about some things that have happened. A few days after I gave her a ride, I invited her to go to the movies with me, but she declined because she said she had to watch her sisters (she has younger sisters and her mom works nights). I said okay. It's been about a week since then and we have been talking almost every day. A few days ago she asked me if I wanted to meet up and have diner at her house with her and her family (she is a really good cook and all of her friends love her food). I agreed and am set to be over on Saturday afternoon. The thing I am curious about is what her intentions are by inviting me over because her family. I barely know any of her family and have never met her dad. In addition to her parents and siblings, her uncle and his family are also staying at her house after the 4th holiday and they will be there as well. Is she trying to get me to know her family or does she want some others along so she feels comfortable when we meet? It's hard to tell how she feels about me because she is more of the quiet and reserved type, but still a lot of fun. Thanks for the help guys and girls.
Smilecharmer Posted July 9, 2014 Posted July 9, 2014 Only one way to find out. Go, and be open. She could like you and want to spend time with you, or she could be making you dinner to pay you back for doing something nice for her. Hard to say.
Author eh94 Posted July 9, 2014 Author Posted July 9, 2014 Thanks for the comment Smile... She did say "I owe you now" when she got out of the car, but I let her know she didn't own me anything. She also mentioned about me coming over and helping her with one of her hobbies.
deathandtaxes Posted July 9, 2014 Posted July 9, 2014 You're thinking too much. It could be a few things. She might be trying to get her family's opinion of you. She could be seeing how you behave around her family. Or she didn't want to be alone at a family function. Meeting a family this early, when you're not even in a relationship, is a tricky issue. But roll with it like the other poster says. 1
bubbaganoosh Posted July 9, 2014 Posted July 9, 2014 You said she's a good cook and she asked you to come over for dinner, so have dinner, meet her family and as long as you have manners and are polite, it's a win win situation. I see no problem with it, so enjoy it. 1
Strength in Healing Posted July 9, 2014 Posted July 9, 2014 It means it's time to start looking for engagement rings. Find out whether she likes white gold or silver, etc. 1
leavesonautumn Posted July 9, 2014 Posted July 9, 2014 How old is she? Her family could be very tight and strict which would mean approval from family and also might mean having family members around during dates. She may be shy or nervous to date as well. Sorry if I'm assuming a little much here, just basing it off of the fact that you both go to church and your first get together would be with her entire family. Personally, I wouldn't feel comfortable with meeting the family and some extended family so soon but if you are okay with it then there is nothing wrong with that either. Just go and have fun.
Author eh94 Posted July 10, 2014 Author Posted July 10, 2014 She is 22. I know her mom is pretty strict, or at least it seems so. I'm not sure about any of her other family. I suppose I will find out soon enough lol.
d0nnivain Posted July 10, 2014 Posted July 10, 2014 She wants a chaperoned date with you & she needs you to make a good impression on her family. Dress nicely. Use your company manners & do not show up empty handed. Bring a nice bouquet of flowers & dessert. 3
Author eh94 Posted July 13, 2014 Author Posted July 13, 2014 The dinner went good in my opinion. Just so happens I cooked one of her Dad's favorite meals. Her family was very nice and I talked with most of them and enjoyed their company. Overall it went well except for the fact that she remained distant the entire time. We shared a few conversations there but that was it. When a family member offered to take our picture together (after they had taken a few others), she declined and wouldn't do it. She just gave out a big "noooooooooo" and prompted to take others. It was very laid back and I didn't feel awkward at all given it was the first time I had met most of them. Tell me what you guys think.
sugarlove Posted July 13, 2014 Posted July 13, 2014 It mean it's time to start looking into baby names and to figure out which season is the best season for your wedding. Seriously, don't overthink this. It could be just something casual. I think it's sweet and kinda cute but not a big deal.
Elle1975 Posted July 13, 2014 Posted July 13, 2014 The dinner went good in my opinion. Just so happens I cooked one of her Dad's favorite meals. Her family was very nice and I talked with most of them and enjoyed their company. Overall it went well except for the fact that she remained distant the entire time. We shared a few conversations there but that was it. When a family member offered to take our picture together (after they had taken a few others), she declined and wouldn't do it. She just gave out a big "noooooooooo" and prompted to take others. It was very laid back and I didn't feel awkward at all given it was the first time I had met most of them. Tell me what you guys think. Ask her out on a proper date. That will give you a clear idea of what's going on.
d0nnivain Posted July 13, 2014 Posted July 13, 2014 I'm a bit concerned that she wouldn't take a photo with you. Is she in witness protection or something? I agree that you should ask her out again. 1
Author eh94 Posted July 14, 2014 Author Posted July 14, 2014 I asked her out on a "real" date and to my surprise she declined. She said she had no interest in me other than friends and that everything was all to "just be nice". It kind of threw me for a loop so idk what happened. Just wanted to let you guys know what happened. Thanks for all the comments!!
Author eh94 Posted July 15, 2014 Author Posted July 15, 2014 I'm so sorry. No need to be, I'm not the kind of person that holds on to this kind of stuff, although I was genuinely surprised. Thanks for the comments everyone!
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