Lovebite Posted July 9, 2014 Posted July 9, 2014 Ok, I was in a bad mood yesterday and I was having anxiety cause I was worried about my friend, and I felt dizzy yesterday from stress lol. But apparently when I was on the road my guy friend was 2 cars in front of me, and he put his hand out, and I still didn't recognize, then he was pointing his hand to the right, basically telling me to pull into this ice cream place, haha, and the car behind him pulled in, and so I just ignored him and didn't do anything and drove away, and he was looking straight at me. I realized that was really messed up of me to do, so I texted him, but my friend said he hasn't used his phone, or his phone is all messed up so I made her message on Facebook for me. I don't have an FB anymore. Here is the conversation: "Hey, Rachel wanted me to message you. She texted you but she didn't know if she had the right number or if you don't have a phone or not. She saw you at last minute and couldn't wave or beep, she wanted you to know that she felt really bad and she didn't want you to think she was being rude. She was in a bad mood and dazing off, She felt bad and wanted you to know." "I waved at her to pull in to see my daughter and I" "Aww... she would have loved that. She did say she saw your hand but didn't know if it was for the car behind you. She was a bear today, personal issues with a particular friend. You know her head is focused on that and doesn't pay attention to any thing else. Do you have the same number? Call or text her if you don't. She has these numbers (she put them in) She told me she would have loved to see your daughter, she didn't know you had her. :(" He saw the message but didn't reply. What do you get from this? That he is mad? I really like him and I hope I didn't upset him, it really was a bad day and I felt dizzy, and stressed out and I just couldn't stop for anything, I had to go home. I feel bad though. Give me your honest opinion on this whole thing, please. Thank you so much!
TXGuy Posted July 9, 2014 Posted July 9, 2014 It doesn't matter if he is mad or not (I doubt he is). He has no cause to be mad. He cannot expect you to read his mind about some hand guesture while driving down the road. If this guy is old enough to have a kid, he is old enough to contact you via normal methods. Stop apologizing to him. Stop your friend from apologizing for you. Apologizing when you have done nothing wrong is unattractive and destroys respect. 1
Author Lovebite Posted July 9, 2014 Author Posted July 9, 2014 It doesn't matter if he is mad or not (I doubt he is). He has no cause to be mad. He cannot expect you to read his mind about some hand guesture while driving down the road. If this guy is old enough to have a kid, he is old enough to contact you via normal methods. Stop apologizing to him. Stop your friend from apologizing for you. Apologizing when you have done nothing wrong is unattractive and destroys respect. I know, I just wanted it to be clear I wasn't blatantly ignoring him, and that I just wanted to get home cause I wasn't feeling well. I made an effort to contact him and to have my friend contact him to tell him, that I felt bad for doing that, so he really shouldn't be mad, but oh well. You're right! It is ridiculous. Thank you!
HeartbrokenNewbie Posted July 9, 2014 Posted July 9, 2014 If I got a message via FB from a friend of the bloke I liked saying what was said I would drop it like a rock.. Very childish you may aswell have met him round the back of the bike sheds & given him a note
Poppygoodwill Posted July 9, 2014 Posted July 9, 2014 i think you're too worried about him being mad at you. You recognized your mistake, and did what you could to explain it so he wouldn't feel bad. If he can't accept that, then honestly you've done what you could, and maybe he's not your friend after all. Ps why not just call him?! forget all the FB through a friend thing.
Author Lovebite Posted July 9, 2014 Author Posted July 9, 2014 If I got a message via FB from a friend of the bloke I liked saying what was said I would drop it like a rock.. Very childish you may aswell have met him round the back of the bike sheds & given him a note There was no other way for me to contact him. I text him but he didn't text me back, I think he has a new number and so since I don't have Facebook, I thought I would have my friend who knows him message him for me. Cause there was no other way to contact him and I felt bad, so what else was I suppose to do??? i think you're too worried about him being mad at you. You recognized your mistake, and did what you could to explain it so he wouldn't feel bad. If he can't accept that, then honestly you've done what you could, and maybe he's not your friend after all. Ps why not just call him?! forget all the FB through a friend thing. I didn't want to call him cause I texted him and he didn't respond and I didn't know if it was because he didn't have his cell phone on? Or if he had a different number etc. I didn't want to look like a complete psycho lol, so that is why I made my friend who knows him, message him for me, and I made her ask him if any of the numbers in my phone were his. Or if he had a new number? He didn't respond to that, if he would've responded to her and said "Oh yeah my number is..." Then that would have been the end of it. Or if he would have said "Everything's cool" Then everything would've been cool with me! I would've dropped it. By him not responding makes me think he just doesn't care and is mad, and to me it's ridiculous, cause you are so right. I did all what I could to tell him I didn't mean to ignore him. I made an effort to show him that I do care about him it's just I was having a bad day, and he just seems like he doesn't care, so I am done with him! I am sick of caring too much about people and being too nice, it pisses me off. I appreciate your feedback a lot, and I think you are right. Thanks.
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