What is the lowest you have sunk?

[Offspring]

I don't know if this is appropriate and i apologise if this unnerves anyone's sensitivities, but the topic of this post was really inspired by a sense of irony at how far we will go to 'win' the affections of our loved ones, or somehow make them realise that it should have been us all along.

 

It may suit those who are further on their healing journey, but feel free to post if you're in the throws of self fladgelation and non comprehension that the object of your affection could possibly not return your sentiments (and i mean that with the utmost seriousness because i've been there and i know the absolute demeaning experience that unrequited 'affections' can be) .

 

I'll start.

 

Not only did i reveal my feelings toward unrequited love in the workplace, but i proceeded to let her know how much she'd affected me, and furthermore, had to admit to myself how much this infatuation affected my performance in the workplace, which caused a lot of distress for me, as i value myself as an important employee.

 

I manipulated situations in the workplace so that i could spend lots of time with her.

 

I admitted my many 'faults'. I constantly hounded her so that she had no choice but to interact with me.

 

I imposed my inner most (not quite, but almost) secrets on her in the hope that she'd like or feel sorry for me.

 

I blamed her because she supposedly didn't feel the same way.

 

I changed my plans and made my dreams around her.

 

I think there is more, but can"t think of it right now.

 

Now, tell me yours. (We might find this really therapeudic)!

Edited July 9, 2014 by Offspring

[d0nnivain]

In college I had a crush on a guy. I would show up at the parties at his house & wait until the wee hours in the hopes of hooking up with him after everyone's inhibitions had been lowered.

 

Although we hooked up a few times, it was never more than that. It took me a while to realize that he had no respect for me & never saw me as someone worry of being his GF.

[Offspring]

In college I had a crush on a guy. I would show up at the parties at his house & wait until the wee hours in the hopes of hooking up with him after everyone's inhibitions had been lowered.

 

Although we hooked up a few times, it was never more than that. It took me a while to realize that he had no respect for me & never saw me as someone worry of being his GF.

 

Yeah, i think this all comes down to our self worth and what we think we deserve. It is particularly lower in our younger years i think. There is the other side of the coin however. You went "all in". If you're prepared to do that, be prepared for the consequences, muck your hand, and deal with it . It's not as bad as you think.

Edited July 9, 2014 by Offspring

[sugarlove]

Haha, seriously do we need to relive these again?

 

I can't even remember what I did in my lowest.. i guess it must have happened during my divorce. It's the lowest point in my life and he's the lowest jerk I know..

 

Wait, i change that, it's actually the best thing I did.

[No Limit]

With my mother's past work in the economic ministry I've been taught/trained from a young age to keep a pokerface if things go rough. Still couldn't hold my tongue and whispered mean insults when my former bully passed me and my friend circle, loud enough for her to hear and mean enough for her to turn around but then hurry away 'cause I had the greater numbers on my side.

 

Probably one of the smallest things people will post here, but I'm still angry that I allowed myself to do that. All that breath wasted.

[love1336x]

My lowest when I was about 19 years old. My first real break up.

I did a lot of begging and crying.

My ex agreed to talk to me face to face.

I waited for him all night crying my eyes out.

I came to his house the next day and had sex with him. He never bothered to say sorry, nothing.

 

I guess with my recent break up as well, going to his house at 7 in the morning, telling him how much I love him over and over again, but getting nothing across, and oh course sleeping with him.

 

However, being 24 years old now.

I feel I've changed a lot. I did not do much begging and pleading with the recent break up, given I did CRY in front of him, but never once did i say, "please take me back" But he knew my intention, he knew what I wanting him to say, but he never did.

 

Eight days of NC! This is the longest I ever gone without speaking to him. It's so tough, but it's getting easy.

[guest569]

Spent hours talking and crying to him on the phone, and started re thinking my entire life and career path. I still have hope that if I tell him about my successes he will want me. Aside from that I didn't really do much as I knew I couldn't get him back. I tried for sympathy basically..

[scobro]

I got into working out and bodybuilding then became personal trainer, scored a hot woman with DD's that I married and wondered what the hell did I ever see in my ex:laugh:

[Offspring]

But he knew my intention, he knew what I wanting him to say, but he never did.

 

Eight days of NC! This is the longest I ever gone without speaking to him. It's so tough, but it's getting easy.

 

That's the hardest thing, not knowing how they're feeling and that they're an insurmountable brick wall that you can't control. Congratulations on the NC!

 

Spent hours talking and crying to him on the phone, and started re thinking my entire life and career path. I still have hope that if I tell him about my successes he will want me. Aside from that I didn't really do much as I knew I couldn't get him back. I tried for sympathy basically..

 

Same here (with the career bit). I tried to show her i was as good as i can be. I even moved house for her. I was tempted to try sympathy, but i don't think i did (although i think i did sub-consciously). The most disempowering thing is that she felt genuine sympathy and even pity for me. God, i hate this feeling.

Edited July 12, 2014 by Offspring