treezy Posted July 9, 2014 Posted July 9, 2014 (edited) No, this is not an I-miss-him post. I just thought I'd start a thread on how I'm coping after a year and a half post breakup. I know most of you on here are newly broken up and feelings are raw and all that but please ALWAYS know that this too shall pass. I'm not going to repeat my breakup story, but in gist, my ex boyfriend had ME initiate the breakup by dying on me. Okay, not literally dying, but he did the dodgy fade out thing that eventually pushed me to ask him if we should stop seeing each other, to which no objections on his end were made. I told him I didn't want to see him anymore. NEVER. But I crumbled and made every single mistake you can possibly think of. I called my ex, texted my ex, went crazy, begged him, cried, everything. I got all the Get Your Ex Back stuff, and practised them but they only made me push my ex even further away. I soon became this crazy woman I never knew existed. I later sank into depression. I even tried to kill myself and had to see a psychologist. It was after awhile that I decided to snap out of it. I decided that I should start living for myself instead of someone who will never care if I live or die. Indeed, things started changing once I changed my mindset. I made the choice to leave my mentally draining job to focus on school and now hold a Bachelors degree. I travelled, and am currently looking to travel more. I did meet someone new too, although things didn't work out between us. I would like to add that, yes, I still think of my ex, and I still love him. But I can't make him love me. I learnt that love isn't about possessing someone, and that every individual has their own free will. No one can force another person to put in the effort that they're not willing to put in. And no, it's not about you. It's not about them either. As much as you feel that they're the right ones, most likely you guys are just not compatible at that point in time. You may or may not get back together with them, but always know that you are worthy of love, and that you will love again. Continue doing your own thing, love yourself, and love will come to you. Excuse me for the long rant, I just thought I'd share. Thanks for reading and stay strong. Edited July 9, 2014 by treezy formatting 7
Offspring Posted July 9, 2014 Posted July 9, 2014 A great post. I think too many people re-condition themselves in the hope that the ex will want them back. The idea of working on yourself is to do it for yourself and no one else. Only then will your true beauty shine through. Ironically, it's when when go and have a whole new energy about us that ex's sometimes come knockong.
vassilbg Posted July 9, 2014 Posted July 9, 2014 A great post. I think too many people re-condition themselves in the hope that the ex will want them back. The idea of working on yourself is to do it for yourself and no one else. Only then will your true beauty shine through. Ironically, it's when when go and have a whole new energy about us that ex's sometimes come knockong. Ironically, some of the changes I started to make were, in hindsight, sub-consciously geared to lure an ex back, but now that the changes have taken place, I'm really not interested in her anymore... but hey, its a double positive, am I right? 1
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