Panatana90 Posted July 9, 2014 Posted July 9, 2014 I know it is probably very insignificant, but my ex of four years (who broke up with me a month ago) still hasn't changed her relationship status on Facebook. Because she was the one who broke up with me, I decided I would let her change it but she hasn't. Up until yesterday, it still said she was in a relationship with me and only now that I have had a bit of attention from a few new girls, I have decided to change it. She's the sort of person who is on FB every day and I definitely don't think that after a month, it's the sort of thing she "hasn't got round to doing" as it it only takes a second. We've had NC since we broke up. Thoughts?
Ordinaryday Posted July 9, 2014 Posted July 9, 2014 Thoughts? just one: why haven't you blocked her? 4
Author Panatana90 Posted July 9, 2014 Author Posted July 9, 2014 I don't see the point in blocking her. I'm still hurt, but not a bitter person.
Ordinaryday Posted July 9, 2014 Posted July 9, 2014 I don't see the point in blocking her. I'm still hurt, but not a bitter person. it's not about bitterness, it is about moving on with your life. how are you going to feel when she hooks up with a new guy and posts photos of them kissing, on her fb timeline? you are going to feel horrible! keeping her on fb is a disaster in waiting! I speak from experience, it happened to me, a girl dumped me and I said I would unfriend her but she told me she really liked me as a friend and would I please stay her friend - I tried but when she hooked up with another guy I got heartbroken and snapped at her and called her all sorts of names and made her hate me. dont even try it. 3
Author Panatana90 Posted July 9, 2014 Author Posted July 9, 2014 it's not about bitterness, it is about moving on with your life. how are you going to feel when she hooks up with a new guy and posts photos of them kissing, on her fb timeline? you are going to feel horrible! keeping her on fb is a disaster in waiting! I speak from experience, it happened to me, a girl dumped me and I said I would unfriend her but she told me she really liked me as a friend and would I please stay her friend - I tried but when she hooked up with another guy I got heartbroken and snapped at her and called her all sorts of names and made her hate me. dont even try it. I could very easily be the first to do that and have already been hooking up with girls. Your situation doesn't have to be necessarily the same as mine. I try not to look at her FB as much now anyway, but she's single, I'm single and we can do what we like 1
Ordinaryday Posted July 9, 2014 Posted July 9, 2014 I could very easily be the first to do that and have already been hooking up with girls. Your situation doesn't have to be necessarily the same as mine. I try not to look at her FB as much now anyway, but she's single, I'm single and we can do what we like you are a man of contradictions. you keep pretending like this whole thing doesnt bother you but if it really didnt bother you you wouldnt be on this board asking these questions! 2
Author Panatana90 Posted July 9, 2014 Author Posted July 9, 2014 you are a man of contradictions. you keep pretending like this whole thing doesnt bother you but if it really didnt bother you you wouldnt be on this board asking these questions! No, I was merely asking opinions on why you would think she hasn't changed it after a month. I wouldn't say I'm bothered, more curious.
Ordinaryday Posted July 9, 2014 Posted July 9, 2014 No, I was merely asking opinions on why you would think she hasn't changed it after a month. I wouldn't say I'm bothered, more curious. it could be a million and one reasons: 1) she doesn't want all her friends to see the relationship status changed to "is single" and then get a million and one questions like "Oh SO SORRY, what happened?" and all these questions and comments from people, it can be very offputting. 2) she just cant be bothered, she hasnt even thought about it. 3) she KNOWS not doing it is getting to you and she wants a reaction out of you. and so on. trying to understand her motivations is pointless, focus on yourself, not her. 1
PegNosePete Posted July 9, 2014 Posted July 9, 2014 we can do what we like Yet you are asking us why she hasn't changed her facebook status. It is as you say. She can do what she likes. You have no right to tell her what to put as her relationship status on facebook. It's not your concern, why are you concerning yourself with it? 1
d0nnivain Posted July 9, 2014 Posted July 9, 2014 She hasn't changed it because she doesn't want to. That doesn't mean she wants you back. It means she doesn't care to announce the break up to the world via FB. Unfriending her would be a good idea for you. You will heal more if you can't see what she's doing. 1
blindnlost Posted July 9, 2014 Posted July 9, 2014 Who cares about what fb status says. Reality is u broke up. You are over thinking it. 2
Strength in Healing Posted July 9, 2014 Posted July 9, 2014 I...have already been hooking up with girls. Dumb mistake. You wanna heal or kill off a part of yourself?
carrie_o Posted July 9, 2014 Posted July 9, 2014 She could just not be thinking about it. I left my status as single for a few months into a relationship. I was more concerned with reading my friends' updates than looking at my own profile.
JimmyWeezy Posted July 9, 2014 Posted July 9, 2014 I haven't changed my status yet either, but who cares? Do I need to change to acknowledge he dumped me after two years? NO. Do I need/want my fb friends (who I couldn't care less of) to know it? NO. Do I want our mutual friends (more specifically, his friends) to see me doing such a stupid thing? NO. Forget about facebook for a while, don't mean to be harsh but in all honesty, it should be the last thing on your mind right now. Think about yourself
NC-Thomas Posted July 9, 2014 Posted July 9, 2014 (edited) Dumb mistake. You wanna heal or kill off a part of yourself? Hooking up is not necessarily dumb. It's good to put your ex of the pedestal, so many great girls out there... and boost your confidence. So I don't see your point in this advice. @Panatana90: why do you even care about a lame ass website where people only post happy ****? ( WATCH: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fF1MfgrLDds ) I blocked my ex from Facebook and damn did it feel good. No more looking, no more torturing. To hell with her man, block her for your own mental health. You need a break from her life and your not getting it by peeping at her profile all day. Your holding on to her by not blocking her. And you will hurt more. She doesn't deserve your attention. She doesn't deserve a single brain-cell in your mind. Take a break and move on. Edited July 9, 2014 by NC-Thomas
lovebug_5858 Posted July 9, 2014 Posted July 9, 2014 My ex never changed his skype status from " I love *insert my name*" And I would look at it everyday to see if he had changed it, Nervous and then happy to see that he didn't. You may not think it does- but it sets you back. Don't pay attention to it, and don't keep checking it. I changed mine, and my picture, and deleted him. But I'm just done with him completely, you may still not be there and that's okay. Just know that only you can decide when you will truly let go and move on.
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