loppydoppy Posted July 9, 2014 Posted July 9, 2014 went on a date with this girl..she was really cool and we had chemistry and it was going great she was laying on my bed, just laying there and i started kissing her . she said ,"who said you could do this". i said "you never said no" we made out for about fifteen minutes and then i put my hand up her shirt and started grabbing her boobs..again she never said anything then after 5 minutes she said "im not the hook up type" i said "ok,,...and"" she sai d"our night should end now" as i took her to her car she said "if you are looking for a hook up thats not me, so good luck..im sure you can find that easily" i was like "i wasnt looking at you as a hook up. i had fun, i would take you on a date agin" she said she had boundaries and that if im still talking to her in a few weeks she would tell me did i screw up? i really wanst looking for just a ****...shes cool as hell and i had a good time
Lernaean_Hydra Posted July 9, 2014 Posted July 9, 2014 No, you didn't screw up, not really. She could've stopped you at any time and eventually did. Her behavior is a little wonky but I can see where she's coming from. Making out like that is fine but the groping seems to have set off her alarm bells which I can understand however she didn't have to be so hypersensitive about it. As you can see, she's just worried you were only looking for sex and would like for you to prove that you're not. Fair enough although if she was really worried about that she shouldn't have gotten in your damn bed! At the end of the day it doesn't look like you messed things up so much she never wants to speak to you again however she's made it clear she doesn't expect to hear from you. Call/text her and invite her out again however is she pulls the same stunt just drop her because she's too histrionic and into s**t testing to be worth it. 2
Thegreatestthing Posted July 9, 2014 Posted July 9, 2014 Take her out again but don't try and grope her then she'll know your into more than her boobs 1
Author loppydoppy Posted July 9, 2014 Author Posted July 9, 2014 maybe the groping was to much but i seriously wasnt planning on having sex with her thats as far as i would have gone if she didnt want me to grab her all she had to do was say no do you guys think i have a shot for a second date?
smackie9 Posted July 9, 2014 Posted July 9, 2014 She's one of those stupid b itches that "tests" your behavior, because she has trust issues. I agree with the other poster you dodged a bullet with this one, Don't go out with her again. TiP: don't make out on your bed without the intention of sex from her, not with the hope of getting sex.In other words keep out of the bedroom unless you both agree that sex is going to happen. 1
justhadto Posted July 9, 2014 Posted July 9, 2014 First date on bed...grabbing???? Bad move She was testing you to see if you were just looking for a f@ck. She liked the kissing,but not where it was going. O well. Justbdont answer her calls ect her first reaction should have been a red flag
d0nnivain Posted July 9, 2014 Posted July 9, 2014 I don't see where you screwed up. She got in bed with you. She did not object to what you were doing. When she did say stop, you did. If she's still annoyed, that is on her. She has explained that she isn't a hook up. Have you explained that you don't date nut jobs? 2
Author loppydoppy Posted July 9, 2014 Author Posted July 9, 2014 she texted me when she got home..i said i had a great time..she said she did to and is sorry she didnt tel me
Keenly Posted July 9, 2014 Posted July 9, 2014 she texted me when she got home..i said i had a great time..she said she did to and is sorry she didnt tel me Apologize. Not for you actions, but for the misunderstanding. Tell her you are looking for something a little more serious than just a hook up. Then think very hard about your date and compliment something little that she did that you thought was cute. Situation defused. 3
Author loppydoppy Posted July 9, 2014 Author Posted July 9, 2014 Apologize. Not for you actions, but for the misunderstanding. Tell her you are looking for something a little more serious than just a hook up. Then think very hard about your date and compliment something little that she did that you thought was cute. Situation defused. would it be best to call and not text
alexwood Posted July 9, 2014 Posted July 9, 2014 would it be best to call and not text yes call for sure
bubbaganoosh Posted July 9, 2014 Posted July 9, 2014 went on a date with this girl..she was really cool and we had chemistry and it was going great she was laying on my bed, just laying there and i started kissing her . she said ,"who said you could do this". i said "you never said no" we made out for about fifteen minutes and then i put my hand up her shirt and started grabbing her boobs..again she never said anything then after 5 minutes she said "im not the hook up type" i said "ok,,...and"" she sai d"our night should end now" as i took her to her car she said "if you are looking for a hook up thats not me, so good luck..im sure you can find that easily" i was like "i wasnt looking at you as a hook up. i had fun, i would take you on a date agin" she said she had boundaries and that if im still talking to her in a few weeks she would tell me did i screw up? i really wanst looking for just a ****...shes cool as hell and i had a good time First of all if she isn't a hook up girl she wouldn't be laying on your bed letting you put your hand up her shirt then telling you to stop . Doesn't matter if it was five minuets or an hour.
Elle1975 Posted July 9, 2014 Posted July 9, 2014 went on a date with this girl..she was really cool and we had chemistry and it was going great she was laying on my bed, just laying there and i started kissing her . she said ,"who said you could do this". i said "you never said no" we made out for about fifteen minutes and then i put my hand up her shirt and started grabbing her boobs..again she never said anything then after 5 minutes she said "im not the hook up type" i said "ok,,...and"" she sai d"our night should end now" as i took her to her car she said "if you are looking for a hook up thats not me, so good luck..im sure you can find that easily" i was like "i wasnt looking at you as a hook up. i had fun, i would take you on a date agin" she said she had boundaries and that if im still talking to her in a few weeks she would tell me did i screw up? i really wanst looking for just a ****...shes cool as hell and i had a good time So.. you can't kiss her.. but you can lay in bed after one date?... The way she handled it..she's bad news
alexwood Posted July 9, 2014 Posted July 9, 2014 So.. you can't kiss her.. but you can lay in bed after one date?... The way she handled it..she's bad news drama right? lol
smackie9 Posted July 9, 2014 Posted July 9, 2014 No it's immaturity. If she was adult enough she would voice her expectations instead of playing stupid games. 1
d0nnivain Posted July 10, 2014 Posted July 10, 2014 eerything seems good except for her immaturity. Proceed with caution.
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