lakerman34 Posted July 9, 2014 Posted July 9, 2014 So, I moved to New Orleans for a service program. I live with two guys that I never met before, and it turns out by happenstance that three girls in the same program live next door (we share a wall). We will be living here for 11 months. One of these girls is INCREDIBLY cute, comes across as VERY innocent. Before we even met, she added me on Facebook (before the program began -- she was unaware of the living arrangement). We spoke a little bit here and there, nothing too much. Anyway, trying to keep a long story short, it has been about a week since we've been here. All six of us have went dancing together. She and I danced a little bit, but I danced with multiple girls, she with multiple guys. They asked for her number, she denied. She and I have a different relationship than she has with my other roommates. They are friendly, sometimes hang out, she and I rip on each other quite a lot. She laughs at EVERYTHING I say. Yesterday, she said something was "sometimes hard and sometimes soft," and I asked her why she was being so sexual. She laughed to the point of tears. Today, a similar situation arose, and the same joke was said, she laughed heartily and said, "OMG STOPPPPP." I told her I was going to "keep milking the joke." She laughed. I came back from the gym, and I may have tore my hamstring (probably not, but they hurt). She and one of her roommates were Netflixing with my other roommate (recently single, we are all trying to comfort him because he's having a rough time with his breakup -- shout-out to LS for giving me advice to give him). She said, "you're hurt? GOOD!" Constantly ripping. Last night, she and I got a little tipsy on our couch on the porch. I sat between her and her other roommate. The other roommate and I have an intellectual interest in each other, constantly making references between each other. I think she's interested in me, but she doesn't seem THAT sexual of a girl. I flirt with the cute girl pretty hard. My hands on her legs a little bit (lying my arms on her legs to show her something on my phone), and we are kind of EXTRA tight on the couch, so we are always touching. It might be worthwhile to mention that last Friday (night we went dancing) ANOTHER girl in my group was hitting on me HARD. I wanted her to sleep at my house because it was late at night and she lives in a very rough part of the city. She ended up sleeping in my bed (no other surface for her to sleep on), but I made sure nothing happened. This girl told me that I seemed "VERY comfortable" with the neighbor girl. The next day, the neighbor girls asked what happened pretty much right away. I told her nothing, and she said "woo woo git it." Anyway, on the couch last night, after a while, she turned her body and started talking to my roommate about music, showing him pictures of her family and her trip to Africa (I don't think there is any interest here), and I had a conversation with the other roommate (who I think likes me). My roommate and I discussed, and he thinks that we should want to be friendzoned in hopes to keep awkwardness away. He said "dude, they are like sisters now, we can find other girls." He also mentioned that during his conversation with her, she mentioned her breaking up with a girlfriend and he thinks she's bi (no indications to dictate she likes women, but she definitely likes men). The girl is REALLY cute. I wouldn't mind having her as a New Orleans girlfriend. I don't think asking her out is a good move (she actually brought her car down from NC, I don't have one), and I REALLY think the best move is go out as a group on a weekend, we get drunk, separate ourselves, something happens. Within our group, I don't have much competition, BUT she gets hit on quite a lot by people in town (she's VERY stylish, tiny, cute, nice, beautiful laugh, nice lower body). I'm not sure what's my next move or how to read our current relationship. At times, part of me thinks she's blatantly hitting on me, but at other times it seems as if she's just REALLY nice. Today, I acted a little distant when I got back from the gym, didn't sit outside with the girls and guys (which we do to unwind after a long, 10 hour work day and evening running errands), and reclused a little bit. I thought that being too available and ALWAYS hanging out with her at all possible moments would come across as too easy. Thoughts?
smackie9 Posted July 9, 2014 Posted July 9, 2014 Good lord bro man up and ask her out on a date before you get friend zoned.
Author lakerman34 Posted July 9, 2014 Author Posted July 9, 2014 Good lord bro man up and ask her out on a date before you get friend zoned. IDK man, it doesn't feel right. Not yet, anyway.
d0nnivain Posted July 9, 2014 Posted July 9, 2014 You are all getting close as a group. For two of you to date will upset that group dynamic. However, the longer the friendship goes on, the harder it will be for you to be seen & taken seriously in a romantic light. Given the close quarters, you won't get friend-zoned; instead you will become like her brother. Your roommate got that right with the sisters comment. What do you want? If you want to date her, step up now. The more time that passes the harder it will be to transition. Plus if you don't stake a claim soon how will you feel when this cute girl starts dating someone else? Are you going to be happy with her new SO hanging out on your porch. Also if you do want to date her, getting into bed with other women right under her nose is very rude.
Strength in Healing Posted July 9, 2014 Posted July 9, 2014 IDK man, it doesn't feel right. Not yet, anyway. Rookie mistake. Enjoy the brotherzone
Author lakerman34 Posted July 10, 2014 Author Posted July 10, 2014 Made out rather passionately with her tonight. Only problem is, one of her roommates REALLY likes me, so she was hesitant to make out like we did. I kissed her, ended the kiss with a kiss on the forehead, then told her it was time for her to go to sleep. She agreed, while laughing. She told me she was going to ignore me "like she always does" at work. I worry the ramifications amongst her roommates, and if this has any chance to amount to anything else. She told me that she knows she made it obvious that she liked me, I just want this to grow into something more, buy not into a full blown traditional relationship, but rather a more friends by week, **** buddies on weekends. Too much to ask?
smackie9 Posted July 10, 2014 Posted July 10, 2014 Why don't you just communicate this with her? It's only fair that she knows your intentions. It's quite cruel to lead someone on who's expectations are not the same as yours, get what I mean? Stop being a puss and be honest with her.
Author lakerman34 Posted July 10, 2014 Author Posted July 10, 2014 Everything seems fine, but onlu time will tell for certain.
smackie9 Posted July 11, 2014 Posted July 11, 2014 Everything seems fine, but onlu time will tell for certain. Procrastinator.
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