GavinDye88 Posted July 9, 2014 Posted July 9, 2014 Hi guys, Cutting the story sort i met a girl on a night out,kissed and got her number etc,Took her for drinks on date 1, went really, really well, ended up going back to hers on the first night as i missed my train home and we just kissed and cuddled in bed because she wanted to stick to her rule and not ruin it by having sex on the first date which i respected.So as the first date went really well i arranged a 2nd date 2weeks later,went for a meal and then for drinks after and again everything was going great,she initiated nearly all of the kissing,holding hand etc.But heres where i get abit lost, she mentioned towards the end of the 2nd date"she doesn't know where she stands with me"because i hardly text/called her inbetween dates well obviously not as much as she liked.Thing is she never initiates a text/call herself it's always me having to do it so i thought if she was really interested in me she would at least start the odd convo here and there and i hinted at that.I said"the only reason i don't contact you everyday is because i don't wanna become that annoying person who wont leave you alone etc"she was really excited for a third date so about 4 days later i asked her out over the weekend but she was working all weekend so i said how about next week and she said"I'll let ya know cause she has 2 essays due in for her degree in the next 2weeks".Im so confused is she trying to sutley say "i dont wana see you" or shud i keep at it and ask her out again and if so, when? I texted her today and it was going well but then she randomly didnt reply and i was about to ask what she had planned for this week and then move in to asking her out again depending on what she said. Should i leave it for a few days before asking about the 3rd date again of wait a week or even longer? im so confused! Any advice would be a great help, Cheers!
Mike B. Posted July 9, 2014 Posted July 9, 2014 Dude, first you need to use paragraphs in your posts. Most people won't even bother with that wall of words. Next, you should chill with all of the anxiety you are building up over an text that was not replied to and her not giving you a definitive answer. She is going to begin to sniff out your anxiety from across the globe and then she will have you. Relax. Wait until she gets back to you. Date other women. The last part is most important.
Author GavinDye88 Posted July 9, 2014 Author Posted July 9, 2014 true say! yeah paragraphs would have been better.
deathandtaxes Posted July 9, 2014 Posted July 9, 2014 Any response of 'I don't know' or the like from a lady immediately gets her put on the back burner by me. It's bs of the highest order. Nobody is so busy they can't go out if they didn't want. It just means you rank very low on her priorities. I wouldn't message her again. She knows you're interested. It's her move. Until then, do like Mike B says, and date other women.
Miss Awesome Posted July 9, 2014 Posted July 9, 2014 I don't see why she would be so straightforward by telling you she's unsure of where she stand with you and by telling you that she wants you to text/call more but then not be straightforward and tell you she's not interested. Just take her at her word, if you're interested. If you don't want to continue trying, stop. As for when you should text her next, if you decide to, I think that's really up to you. Do what you want and stop worrying so much about what she wants. I think you could even text her again tonight or text her tomorrow and say something like what you said to us about wanting to ask her her plans and if she wants to go out.
Author GavinDye88 Posted July 9, 2014 Author Posted July 9, 2014 Cheers for the feedback. Miss Awesome thats probs the best advice ive gotten "Do what you want and stop worrying so much about what she wants" very true.
d0nnivain Posted July 9, 2014 Posted July 9, 2014 I agree that you need to stop worrying. I disagree that you shouldn't consider what she wants. She point blank asked for more contact in between dates & even though you had a valid reason for not contacting her so much, she wants more. What's the harm in increasing it a bit? I'm not advocating 24/7 smothering her but perhaps one additional text of Good morning or have a nice day would ease her concerns without being too taxing on you.
Author GavinDye88 Posted July 9, 2014 Author Posted July 9, 2014 yeah that is true, she is pretty much telling what she wants. cheers!
Dallers Posted July 9, 2014 Posted July 9, 2014 Sounds to me like you are way past the texting stage by the second date lol. I do not understand how she does not understand where you stands with you lol. You have literally jumped all hurdles and obstacles and already reached the cuddling in bed stage. I think she just wants exclusivity quicker than most do. If you like her and it is clear she likes you then have the talk. Sounds like a good situation to me wish girls I met were this simple.
Author GavinDye88 Posted July 9, 2014 Author Posted July 9, 2014 yeah i was confused when she said that aswell. think i may have dropped the ball there then
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