LotusFlower11 Posted July 8, 2014 Posted July 8, 2014 I have been through many heartbreaks and have not dated anyone seriously for almost 4 years. Then I met my best friends cousin at the beginning of the year and he's in the same boat, he's been hurt and been single for almost 4 years as well. Since I met him, I started to notice that he's been flirting with me every time we all hang out (we have mutual friends). But me being me, I just ignored it or just play it off cause he's just "being a guy." Anyways months past and he asked for my number. We hit it off and started liking each other more. Me being me, I pushed him away even though I know I have strong feelings for him because I got scared of getting hurt again. I just thought everything was too good to be true. I pushed him away a couple times and he still gave me chances. Then, I pushed him away for the 3rd time and according to my best friend, I really hurted him. He basically cut me off. I don't blame him at all because that is something I would do too. I tried contacting him to apologize. All I got back from him was a text saying he have no feelings anymore and told me to stop and let it go. I did what he said and its been 3 months of no contact. However, we do see each other at friends function, we just act like we dont know each other or he'll leave a room if im in the same room. Or he would just leave the party when I arrive. It hurted me bad knowing that I hurt him. Then 4th of July weekend, he was at the same party that I was at two days in a row and noticed that he's been trying to be in the same room as me. I would go chill outside with friends and he would come join us. He even held and played with my son and my son fell asleep in his arms. I was eating in the kitchen and he came and sat in front of me but still we said nothing to each other until he asked me where the foil was. I just acted civil and gave him the foil. The next morning, he texted me asking to be friends with benefits. We then started talking about what happened with us and he came over. I still have feelings for him. The next day, I told him that I can't go thru with the FWB things because I'm looking for a serious relationship. All he text back was, " My bad if I made you feel some type of way..." And I just left it at that. Please help! I've been trying to anaylze over and over and I just need someone to shed some light as to what this boy is thinking?
d0nnivain Posted July 8, 2014 Posted July 8, 2014 Until you understand what you are thinking, what he's thinking or what he does, doesn't matter. Your actions say you aren't open to dating yet. Accordingly I think you should leave your friend's cousin alone. Unless you are willing to trust that his motives are pure -- that *gasp* he may actually like you -- stop toying with him.
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